It depends on if this is OK with both you and your husband. It looks like your life is pretty busy with 5 kids still in teens. I think often, parents become so absorbed in their role as teacher, counselor, nurse, role model to their kids that their role as lover to each other gets lost. Also, if there were some bad patches - that could leave some wounds that were not properly dealt with and maybe caused some buried resentment. It sounds like you are a total team with your husband, but lost something of your relationship and passion for each other along the way. Maybe going back in time, try looking at him again through the eyes of the young woman who fell in love with him in the first place. Remember how sexy and wonderful those days were. It takes work, but if you want that you can get it back.
at 9:10 AM on Oct. 7, 2008