My 22 month old son is very angry this morning. HE bites himself and me, throws and hits. He is getting his 2 yr. molars. Gave him teething tabs and tylenol. When I put him in time-outs for his biting, he bangs his head on the door and bites the back of his hand. This has been going on for a month or so. I recently took him & myself into a behavioral specialist and they see nothing wrong with him mentally or my parenting teqcniques. It almost seems like there is a demon inside him fighting to keep him angry. IDK what to do becasue nothing is effective. PLEASE HELP!Answer Question
Answer by m-avi at 11:27 AM on Aug. 15, 2010
Answer by DarkFaery131 at 11:28 AM on Aug. 15, 2010
Answer by Finkette at 11:29 AM on Aug. 15, 2010
Answer by DarkFaery131 at 11:30 AM on Aug. 15, 2010
There is no demon inside your son!
Time outs don't work. They don't stop bad behavior and they don't teach good behavior. They make kids behave worse, lie, sneak, hurt others, and resent their parent. In your son's case it is feeding his anger. Psychologists know punishment based parenting, authoritarian, doesn't work and isn't desirable.
A 2 yo has no real empathy. Appealing to empathy to try and get him to stop biting isn't going to work. Many adults don't have empathy! Biting him won't teach him why he shouldn't bite and is assult. Mini lectures don't work with toddlers.
Answer by Gailll at 11:39 AM on Aug. 15, 2010
Answer by mama2my2girls at 11:42 AM on Aug. 15, 2010
What does work. Keep expectations simple. The message is no biting. You want to say it without using the word no, people are not for biting. Don't use the word please. Don't say it hurts. Don't lecture. Don't make it about you.
Try to keep life for him in balance so he is less stressed. Kids usually do things like bite and have tantrums when they are hungry, tired, or frustrated. My grandson is the same age. You can do stress management things with him. Music therapy works with my grandson. Some other things that may work are yoga, massage, or guided imagry.
Watch for behavior that leads up to biting and avoid it. If he is biting because of teething then give him things he can bite. Massage his gums and TMJ.
Answer by Gailll at 11:49 AM on Aug. 15, 2010
Answer by gertie41 at 11:51 AM on Aug. 15, 2010