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sd problem

Heres the issue. We have proof in the past that sd was being abused by bm. Although it was not enough for cps to help her. Now she goes to therapy but her bm stays in the room the whole time the session is going on. Bm has done this since the counselor reported her to cps. Still noone listens. Now sd who is 7 has started wetting her pants, sucking her thumb (something she never did), complaining of headaches and stomaches consistently, and lastly when she is here (we are not cp) whenever she talks to or about bm and her boyfriend she bites her nails. Dh and I have no idea what is causing this behavior or what to do about it. Any advice welcome.

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:45 PM on Aug. 15, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • if she is in school see if you can get the school nurse/counseler to talk to her there with out mom around...

    Answer by cara124 at 1:51 PM on Aug. 15, 2010

  • it sounds like she is still being abused. I would take her to a counselor on your own dime -- even if you only have her weekends or something, a lot of places now have Saturday appointments. Or call your local social services office and arrange for a child case worker to meet with SD when she is in you guys' care. Please don't give up on this little girl - there's definitely something bad going on.

    Answer by MommaofH2 at 1:56 PM on Aug. 15, 2010

  • Can you talk to her teacher also? Please do whatever you can to help her.

    Answer by elizabr at 1:59 PM on Aug. 15, 2010

  • Contact CPS and ask them for a counseling session without BM. This can be done when you have weekend custody of the girl. If the mother is the accused abuser she should not be allowed in the room during the sessions in the first place. Contact the school counselor and the girl's teacher to see if they have seen the same issues. If educational professionals contact CPS they might investigate again. Good luck!

    Answer by scout_mom at 5:23 PM on Aug. 15, 2010

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