I need suggestions for coping with what I call my daughter's "Mommy spite". My 3-1/2 year old has recently decided that Mommy (number one rule-maker and enforcer in the house) is her archnemesis. She will behave beautifully in the presence of Daddy, Grandma, Auntie, you name it - but if Mom's around, she pulls out all the stops. This includes peeing her pants (despite being fully potty trained) and hiding the evidence. She'll also make intentional messes that she knows I'll make her clean up, and when I tell her to clean them up she will throw a hysterical fit until she has exhausted herself to the point of almost passing out. I'm not tyrannical - I ask nicely the first couple times, but then I am stern and will not back down when I tell her to do something. She KNOWS this. You can watch her face and see that she is intentionally going for reactions. But what do I do? I can't IGNORE the messes she makes, peeing her pants, etcAnswer Question
Answer by LittleWeloosMom at 2:43 PM on Aug. 15, 2010
You can be proactive and avoid things like messes. There are things you can ignore. You can avoid using punishments. You should only ask once. Then change the situation. If there is a mess and you ask once and she doesn't clean it up then help her clean it up. If you want her to get off the counter she is standing on go over and pick her up and put her on the floor.
Reorganize things so it's difficult to make messes. Some experts say 10 toys are enough. I have a 22 mo grandson and I bought new furniture because he is always taking my sectional apart, moving the sections around and putting the cushins all over. Great fun for him but difficult for grandma.
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