It's all hard, but it's hard in different ways. When a girl is dating, she has much to research if she is really looking for a husband who will be with her for the rest of her life. It takes a long time to research character, which is the major factor to be considered. She needs to watch him for a pretty long time to see how well he keeps his word, what his work ethic is, how he treats his mother or his sister or just other women in general, if he has any addictions, and if he is a man of integrity. If he passes muster on all those (and more), then she has to begin asking herself what are her strengths and weaknesses as compared to his, and she also has to determine whether she thinks they balance each other well enough to make a life together. Then if they marry, there will always be the little surprises that she (and he) missed when they were dating, and those have to be worked through and overcome. So, it's all hard!!
at 9:36 AM on Aug. 16, 2010