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Why does it hurt...??? adult content

Why does sex hurt with TMI but when it goes really far it hurts does it mean he is just big or do you have to get use to doing with him....(its the first guy i have done it with in a 3 months) lol

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Asked by Anonymous at 2:12 PM on Aug. 16, 2010 in Relationships

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  • could be hitting your cervix

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 2:13 PM on Aug. 16, 2010

  • Maybe you are going too fast? not wet enough?

    Answer by JGRIMMER at 2:13 PM on Aug. 16, 2010

  • Is he a considerate lover? Is he just ramming it in before you are ready? He should be trying to listen to your body and gauge your reactions..a good lover knows when he's going to far too your feeling to him, it isn't all about him, it's about both of you being happy..make him slow down.. try to find your own pace, not go along with his, guys are happy either way, at warp speed pounding away at us, or slow and easy.... if you do what feels good to you it should go a lot smoother, unless there's something wrong with you like butterflyblue mentioned.. then again, some guys really are just too damn big to deal with, lol..

    Answer by chocolatluver at 2:26 PM on Aug. 16, 2010

  • After 3 months your body is used to not doing it... so you could be just dry and tight. Your body will get used to having sex again.

    Lucky you if he is big... =)
    Unlucky you if he is not considerate. Try more forplay and maybe some alcohol to see if that helps.

    Answer by Niki_sd at 2:55 PM on Aug. 16, 2010

  • When I met my hubby it took us forever to actually be able to have sex and I couldn't figure out why, he was very considerate it was just the fact that the other men I had slept with had been much smaller than him apparently. With time we worked through it and he never forced it in but eventually we realized that we were going to have to try more and with patience ( on his end) we finally got it to work and we just had to move slow and adjust. I would give your body time and make sure you don't rush it no matter how ready you are to jump his bones :-)

    Answer by Expecting1st at 3:25 PM on Aug. 16, 2010

  • Try getting on top so you control the amount of penetration.

    Answer by ramawin at 9:51 PM on Aug. 16, 2010

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