We did not do traditional counseling; we actually attended a couple's retreat and did 12 follow sessions that helped us discuss some of the issues in marriage; in a group setting. Our weekend consisted of about 35 couples; we didn't share unless we wanted to. The weekend was religion based but we are not religious but all couples were welcomed. The program was very intimate; it gave us alot of time for healing in our way; with our own words without anyone telling us if it was right or wrong to feel the way we felt; we learned how to accept the way the other felt. Hubby and I were separated for 4 months prior to attending the program and this was by far the best decision we have made. Traditional counseling for me was not an option, I didn't want someone that didn't know me or my marriage to tell me what needed to be fixed so the program was a good compromise for us both.
Answer by LuvmyFam6 at 2:41 PM on Aug. 16, 2010
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Answer by MTM at 2:39 PM on Aug. 16, 2010
I did but it wasn't because of any problems. I live in TN and marriage licenses are $98.50 but if you decide to do 4 hours of marriage counseling beforehand you only have to pay $38.50. I would suggest that if you think you need to attend marriage counseling you get somebody that you both are willing to talk to and be honest with.
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Answer by lmt_mom2010 at 2:54 PM on Aug. 16, 2010
yes and it has worked.We had our 30 th anniversary in July.We have been three separate times about every 8 or 9 years.The first time we were on the verge of a divorce ,I only went because I felt I owed my children a total effort.There was not any abuse or cheating.We were fortunate had a great couples therapist that connected with both of us and was not afraid to tell either of us we were on the wrong track.We have very different personalities and ways of communicating so after awhile we get lazy.Now we try to get help before the really harsh feelings start to surface.We both are very happy we are together.
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