I was in the same situtaion not to long ago. We already have two adopted daughters, and were offered another baby through foster care. I was so excited and ready for another one, but DH was not. It was a war between us for days..me trying to pressure him into taking the baby even though I knew he wasn't ready for another one yet. Thankfully I realized I was not ready yet either (our daughters are both going through the terrible twos LOL!). I also realized that if he is not ready, then it is not the time. You BOTH need to be ready when you have a child, but I think more so when you are adopting. It's an emotional roller coaster and you need each other to get through it. Take time and find out WHY he has changed his mind. My DH knew when we met that we would have adopt, but some men find it threatening to there 'manhood' that they cannot have a child of there 'own'.
at 2:44 AM on Oct. 8, 2008