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my husband loves his beer and says it just taste good to him,however it seems to me that its making him inpatient cause he yells at the kids a lot and swears at the stupidest things.
I've told him that it bugs membut it wont make a difference. Can alcohol make the brain cause people to be this way inpatient and intolerable? Would you leave a guy that yells at your kids a lot and refuses to get help cause he LOVES to drink.?

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:45 PM on Aug. 18, 2010 in Relationships

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  • uh in a word yes

    Answer by MoMoFu at 11:45 PM on Aug. 18, 2010

  • yes i would leave him if he is not willing to give up the booze.

    Answer by vampire2007 at 11:46 PM on Aug. 18, 2010

  • uh....yes. Alcohol and being intoxicated causes people to be impulsive, to have poor judgment, it slows their reaction time to things and it causes their inhibitions to go away. Hence the reason why people should not drink and drive. Would I leave a guy who did that? Well I would have some pretty open communication about what was going to happen if he didn't change his behaviors.

    Answer by emilex at 11:48 PM on Aug. 18, 2010

  • It sounds like he's abusive towards you and the kids. If he doesn't listen when you tell him that this bothers you, protect yourself and the kids and get out.

    Answer by TwoBrownDogs at 11:49 PM on Aug. 18, 2010

  • almost sounds like his an aggressive drunk, please be careful. Tell him he needs to either cut back or you'll be gone with the kids

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 12:06 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • Yep... You might want to tell him its you & the kids or the beer. AA is not only good for the drunk, but also for the family with coping.

    Answer by lilmoosesmom at 12:35 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • is this a serious question? anytime someone picks ANYTHING over you and the kids, its a problem. he is choosing beer-and yelling and impatience....I would let him know he needs help, and if he didnt get it-make a plan to leave.It may be the only way he sees its a problem.

    Answer by Bearsjen at 12:56 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • Alcoholics are sometimes worse than drug addicts. Your husband has a problem. Give him the choice of his family or alcohol. I also agree to get some support for yourself while you are going through this. Alcoholism is no joke.

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 2:22 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • seems like he is becoming more than someone who likes a drink ...more like someone with a growing dependency. i think its more than past time for a very serious talk between you two. dont be accusatory . write a list out of how he changes when he is drinking. how he talks to the children, to you. and that you are concerned. i also suggest you start going to alanon meetings now rather than later. and learn when it is time to tell him ENOUGH and either stop and get help or GO

    Answer by sati769leigh at 5:55 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • not without attempting to fix the problem first

    Answer by Zoeyis at 7:58 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

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