My dh works 2 jobs while I am a sahm which is choice. Since he is always working outside the home you can imagine I do all the work at home. We have 4 kids and I do EVERYTHING for them (they are all under 7). My dh goes out with friends almost every weekend I havent been out with friends since we were married. He says it isn't safe for me to go out alone. Now he has started taking away my driving privileges for even going to the grocery store. If he isnt with me I cant go. Although he and the kids sit in the car and I had better not take more than 15 min in the store. I do not feel like a wife I feel like a prisoner and a slave. I cant even imagine leaving with these 4 kids no job, no money and no car. He was not like this at first and I have tried to talk to him but he says he doesnt want to hear my "bitching". I have even written him a letter and he tore it up and said he didnt have time for that.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:56 AM on Aug. 19, 2010 in Relationships
You need to get out now! It will be rough but it isn't impossible. You don't deserve to be a prison in your own home. What happens if the kids get sick or hurt and you have to get them to the doctor's and he doesn't let you drive! That's a disaster. Good Luck, momma.
Answer by Cindy18 at 9:00 AM on Aug. 19, 2010
Oh honey, how are you not crazy by now? There is no way I could put up with someone that controlling! I'd try to talk with him but you said he doesn't listen to you so honestly I'd leave (I also have NO patience when it comes to someone telling me what I can and can't do) Good luck!
Answer by onemellowmom at 9:01 AM on Aug. 19, 2010
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Answer by Misteh at 9:08 AM on Aug. 19, 2010
"darling, i love you, i love being mother to your children, but we need some new rules before i lose my mind. Your weekends out need to be limited to one weekend a month and i get one weekend a month. thank you for everything you do but this is what needs to happen next--thanks dear!" i find that "bitching and shrilling doesnt work... direct orders do especially if they are so drowned in sweet compliments and submissive-style charm that the hubby doesnt mind or cant tell. it worked with every boyfriend, my ex husband and my current boyfriend. disclaimer: it does not convince a man to stop fooling around, overall treat you better, ect but if you want a night out or him to stay in it works swell
Answer by mrsmostafa at 9:12 AM on Aug. 19, 2010
Answer by debnich501960 at 9:12 AM on Aug. 19, 2010
Next question overall
Do you buy new or take what you can get for hand-me-downs?