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struggling to learn alphabet --- what do you suggest to help him

My son is 4. He can do first grade math but is still struggling with learning all of the letters of the alphabet. I worked with him this summer with letter identication games. alphabet books. i hung an alphabet in his room. we sing the abc song every day almost -- he points to the letters when we sing them and still! he struggles to identify them in isolation --- so what have you found that worked well to teach your child the ABC's? is there any toys that are great? i dont want to show him how fustrated i am about this. I dont want to concede that he has a learning disability if he is only 4 and can do advanced math. We have a year before K to get him set. honestly he remember more about the letter sounds than the actual names of the letters -- help a momma out! i am trying so hard for him and what i am doing isnt working...

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Asked by AmaliaD at 10:48 AM on Aug. 19, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • My daughter is going to be 3 next month and each week we learn a new letter and in corporate into the song..

    Right now she does..(in the ABC song voice)


    Answer by SunShineMoMM at 10:50 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • If he knows the sounds, why does he need to know the names? Teach him by reading and point things out while playing. Stop forcing school. It will come, I promise. 4 is young anyway. He WILL learn it in school. Step back and try again in a few months.

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 10:50 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • Just use things around your house. Even put post it notes on them if you'd like! "C" for cheerios, "M" for milk, "T" for truck - things he can relate to!
    He has plenty of time and you're doing lots of great things to keep him engaged. Don't worry, he'll do fine.

    Answer by justnancyb at 10:51 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • Teach him a song or something musical to get him to remember the alphabet. That's the kind of stuff that works on television. It doesn't have to be perfect either. It can even be a silly song using the letters of the alphabet.

    Answer by CafeMochaMom1 at 10:52 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • I would relax and not worry about it so much. He IS only 4.His brain will register it when its ready to. Just keep exposing the alphabet to him in a fun, positive way and he will eventually get it.
    Make up games to play using the alphabet. Make flash cards. Tape a different flashcard to each doorway in the house and tell him that he has to figure out the "secret password" to come through the door. If he can't identify the letter at the door, don't make a big deal about it, tell him he's been granted a free doorway pass by the good door troll, laugh about it an dthen talk about the letter and try again later.
    Theres lots you can do. But try not to push too much or it will actually take him LONGER to learn them because of the stress.

    Answer by kimberlyinberea at 10:53 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • Wait until he is older. There is no rush to lear things. It doesn't matter when he learns the alphabet. Pushing kids to learn things too early can cause learning disorders.


    Answer by Gailll at 10:53 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • Maybe those leap frog books will help?

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 10:58 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • He is still young. He will learn it by the middle of Kindergarten (teachers do all kinds of activities with the alphabet to help kids learn). Start with the letters in his name first. Since it's his name he will be interested. Write it neatly for him then have him point to the letters and say them. Have him move his finger under the whole name in a sweeping motion as he says his name (you want him to understand that letters make words that we speak. He can learn to write each letter and say it after he writes it.
    Go on a letter hunt and have him find all the b's on the page of a book. Then all the t's, ect; Play Go Fish with a set of alphabet cards (play with only letters he knows and is just learning and add a new one every week or two). I hope those ideas help.

    Answer by chocaholic888 at 11:09 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • With my oldest, we made up words (not exactly a song) with motions to match for each letter. I can't really remember everything, but I know we started with "Airplane A" holding our hands above our head to make a triangle shape and acting like we were flying. For "B" we said "Bump, Bump, B" and traced the bumps of the B in the air with our finger. "C" was curvy C, which we also traced in the air with our finger. We had a lot of fun coming up with different words and motions for each letter.


    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 11:14 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • Knowing the letters of the alphabet is really a Kindergarten skill, right now he should be enjoying books being read to him, looking at pictures and making up stories. Letters and reading will come in due time!

    Answer by psugal at 11:47 AM on Aug. 19, 2010

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