I am beginning to impliment a new discipline in my house. When my 7 year old son breaks the rules, he draws a piece of paper out of a jar with a chore on it. I am having trouble coming up with things to put on the paper. I would like a wide variety of things, and things that he finds difficult. I want him to dislike it, but be able to do it....any ideas? What do you make your children do around the house?
Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 2:39 PM on Aug. 19, 2010
Answer by okmommy08 at 2:17 PM on Aug. 19, 2010
I don't think it's a good idea. When a child misbehaves there should be natural or logical consequences. A natural consequence is something that happens all on it's own and isn't controlled by anyone. You tell a child to stop jumpin on the couch because they can hurt themself. They jump on the couch, fall off and hurt themself. That's a logical consequence. Sometimes it's good to let the logical consequence happen. Of course you don't want the ER or CPS to be involved.
Answer by Gailll at 2:21 PM on Aug. 19, 2010
A logical consequence is something imposed that makes sense. This is one everyone in our family remembers. My 16 year old son wanted to drive our family station wagon to a scout camp for a weekend campout. It was spring and I knew the camp was muddy. I told him to leave the car in the parking lot. He drove the car around the camp, hit two trees, and spelled fuel in the car.
He never drove to a campout again in a vehicle I owned. Logical consequence. He had to clean the car. It was an old car that didn't make sense to fix. The door where the car seat went wouldn't open and that was a major inconvience for me. He is 30 and I don't think I would let him drive my car to a campout. He says he would have rather been grounded or hit or had to pay.
Answer by Gailll at 2:28 PM on Aug. 19, 2010
Here is a chart that shows the differences between logical consequences and punishment
A logical consequence of not putting his bicycle would be that you put it away where he couldn't use it for a set amount of time. He didn't put his toys away. You bag them up and put them in garage for a week. He gets a bad grade he has to do homework right after school instead of playing. He is behaving badly with kids outside he has to come inside (no lectures).
Answer by Gailll at 2:45 PM on Aug. 19, 2010
You need to make sure you are correcting over and over. Only say things once. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Act swiftly. No counting to 3. If he is being loud during naps he needs to have activities to do that keep him quiet. This may be something that is more your responsibilty than his fault.
Having him do chores (punishment) isn't going to teach him to treat his brother better. You need to teach him. It may take a period of time of close supervision.
Answer by Gailll at 2:56 PM on Aug. 19, 2010