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i am new to this so forgive me but why is 4play so essential before having sex


Asked by Anonymous at 3:55 PM on Aug. 19, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (19)
  • Most women need foreplay in order to get physically stimulated enough to actually enjoy sex, and be able to reach orgasm.Most women can not orgasm from penetetration/intercourse alone. They need clitoraol &/or g-spot stimulation in order to orgasm So foreplay helps in that area. Also, most women need to feel: comfortable, relaxed, emotional and mentally connected and stimulated as well in order to fully enjoy sex/reach full erousal/and orgasm. Foreplay helps in those areas as well.

    It's very important that a woman, in order to fully enjoy sex and gain the most pleasure out of sex, to fully understand and be comfortable with: her body, her sexual needs, her sexual wants,what she needs sexually in order to orgasm, what she needs to feel sexually comfortable and confident. and she needs to be comfortable enough with herself an dher partner to freely share and express those things.

    Answer by pixie_trix at 5:08 PM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • So you can have an orgasm too. Very few women can climax with intercourse alone.

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 3:59 PM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • I don't know about everyone else, but It's my favorite part. That and it helps the girl get ready since the guy can easily be ready for it.

    Answer by MamaSarah1104 at 3:59 PM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • foreplay is so essential before sex because foreplay gets our minds our bodies and souls ready to be connected with another person. for great sex at night foreplay starts in the morning. that doesn't mean groping each other in the morning. could be something subtle like a pat on the butt and wink or a sexy note or text msg.
    plus have u ever tried having dry sex? it's not fun.

    Answer by tanper29 at 4:01 PM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • This is a man isn't it?
    Anyway it is important because it gets the woman all hot and bothered. LOL

    Answer by gulfcoastmom4 at 4:07 PM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • well i have learned that its more romantic and gets you two closer together before just jumping in and getting it done. :)

    Answer by Mrs.Ro at 3:58 PM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • without it the sex would last about 2 min!

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 4:00 PM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • To me it's very sensual and adds a real jump start into having sex with my lovey dubby.

    Answer by DesertRose75 at 4:01 PM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • how is it NOT essentail

    ...unless you are a man, then it is not even in your mind-unless you have been trained well by a woman to know how importnat it is to a woman

    Answer by fiatpax at 4:02 PM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • I would never get to orgasm if we skipped foreplay... well, not never, but rarely...
    plus its just fun... but sometimes you just want a quickie and there's nothing wrong with that either

    Answer by elizabiza at 4:03 PM on Aug. 19, 2010