How do you react when your child says, I hate you! Do you punish/discipline or do you respond with love?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:02 AM on Aug. 20, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
No punishment necessary. Just be a sponge and absorb it. Say, "well you feel that way but I still love you." Or "okay." Or "thank you for sharing, anything else you want to get off your chest?" No need for sarcasm. This is normal. As long as they are not being violent it is going to be fine. The reality is most kids are looking to hurl hurtful words because they feel wounded. Just acknowledge their feelings and thoughts and let it be that. If you get all bent out of shape then they know they scored major time. Yes, it hurts. But talk about that later. Like a few days later when things are going well: "remember when you said you hated me, well at the time it hurt. I'll love you always no matter what you say or do." But in the moment when a child is dishing out hurtful words you have to be the one to be calm because they are not. If this child is in your face you can ask, do you
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