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I grew up in a VERY strict home so I'm having trouble with where to draw the line. My 14 y.o. daughter wants to "date" a 16 y.o. boy, get rides to and from school with boys and girls, and basically go wherever she wants. A friend told me that if we let her do everything now there will be nothing special to look forward to at 15 and 16. I hadn't thought of it that way. I just want to know what rules normal parents have. In our town it appears that most parents let their kids do just about anything. Including supplying their alcohol!!! Insane!
And do the same rules apply for 14 y.o. boys?
Answer by BradenIsMySon at 8:57 AM on Aug. 20, 2010
Nope, going out with a 16 year old boy by herself is not a option. Group dates at 14 are OK. I wouldn't let her get a ride to school from friends either. You need to know she made it to school.
I would apply the same rules to 14 year old boys. I think until they are that age then they shouldn't be doing it. What I mean is when she is 16 and she is legal to drive (whether she is driving or not) then she could go with kids in cars to hang out or to school.
2 year is a lot when they are teenagers. I hope I made sense.
Answer by Cindy18 at 9:00 AM on Aug. 20, 2010
Answer by NannyB. at 9:02 AM on Aug. 20, 2010
My daughter is now 17 but at the age of 14 she was not allowed in anyone's vehicles unless it was a parent driving. She was not allowed to date any boys older than herself and if she wanted to hang out at friends homes, there had to be a parent present. Now that she is a senior in high school, she has much more freedom. She is not free to do as she pleases, but we aren't making her feel suffocated either.
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