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I have a major work problem, I work as a sales assistant at an investment firm. I was sitting in my office when I heard one of the stock brokers mention that he was in my office and that the oldest sales assistant (me) is kinda hot, and that when I was sitting at my desk he saw my yellow lace thong hanging out, He obviously did there was no way he could have known that. The other kid he told this too said like 2 years ago I use to bang her it was awesome. My heat Jumped out of my throat, I just turned 40 and yes two years ago I had a fling with one of the stock brokers, it was short lived and stupid, I was in my late 30's he was probably 26 at the time. I was all about sex and I regret it. But what can I do im so embarrased he is telling people. I cant complain to my boss because hes a top producer and he can get my fired, I have a son starting college!! What do I do?

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xtinababy

Asked by xtinababy at 8:54 PM on Aug. 20, 2010 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • you should pull the guy aside and tell him you do not appreciate him kissing and telling. if he keeps it up, you be the one telling how he really was in bed. LOL
    sorry, thats all i got hun. i know its a sticky situation.
    iamcafemom83

    Answer by iamcafemom83 at 8:59 PM on Aug. 20, 2010

  • you can tell him you don't appreciate him talking about it but it probably won't matter to him...
    you could just ignore it... some guys say stuff like that all the time and people always wonder if they are actually telling the truth or not
    elizabiza

    Answer by elizabiza at 9:00 PM on Aug. 20, 2010

  • I would talk to the dude, tell him what you heard & ask him if he would please keep it secret. I personally could not work with someone i used to have sex with ESPECIALLY if he's talking to others about it. I would have quit after the sexual fiasco. But, you are both adults. You should be able to talk to him & explain to him that it is disrespectful to you that he tells people about your personal business. As far as the other guy goes, i would just keep a distance from him.. Give him the cols shoulder & keep ut strictly business with him.


    You could also tell the other dude that you heard the conversation & that you didn't appreciate it. Let him know it bothered you.

    samurai_chica

    Answer by samurai_chica at 9:04 PM on Aug. 20, 2010

  • Shrug it off or play it down. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. If you are hot, you are hot! LOL. Even if you are embarrassed I might still try to diffuse the issue and don't let it show that it bothered you. Were they talking loudly so that you were meant to hear or did you just happen to over hear. If they didn't mean for you to hear, then I don't really think you have a problem - just go about your business and try to forget about it. Regardless of whether they wanted you to hear or not, I suppose you could let them know (1) the fling is past history and the ex needs to keep his mouth shut about it; he's lucky you even gave him the time of day; and (2) the other one needs to keep his eyes off your bottom! Act strong even if you don't feel strong and keep them in their place.
    apaxton

    Answer by apaxton at 9:14 PM on Aug. 20, 2010

  • That is actually sexual harrassement to talk about you and your undies and your sex life.
    dancinintherain

    Answer by dancinintherain at 10:35 PM on Aug. 20, 2010

  • Its is sexual harassment. End of story. Go to the head of your HR department, not your boss.
    twinsplus2more

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 2:58 PM on Aug. 21, 2010

  • While it is sexual harassment unless one of the men is willing to step up and get himself fired they are not going to break ranks so, I wouldn't go to your HR dept.
    matthewscandi

    Answer by matthewscandi at 3:28 PM on Aug. 22, 2010

  • Look for a new job because it isn't going to get any better. You could file a complaint but you'd be singled out and since he is a top producer, they would side with him.
    tasches

    Answer by tasches at 12:35 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • Use your sexual hottness and their weakness to your advantage! Make them do flips for you, errands, favors and what not. Why Not? A woman has the power and she should by all means use it. But, dont sleep with them.....
    Esmrlda

    Answer by Esmrlda at 3:22 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • wow tricky
    san78

    Answer by san78 at 6:42 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

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