What can I do about my 7yo's snotty and disrespectful attitude? He's always backtalking and thinking he knows it all. Yesterday he was in his martial arts class and he was totally a disrepectful little brat to the instructor (instructor is fairly new and a teenager so I don't think he felt it was his place to correct it - but I would have been thrilled if he had made him do push-ups or something because of his attitude. As it is, I'm making DS apologize to him next week. DS says, "Why do you have to embarrass me by making me apologize?" *Rolls eyes)
Anyway, we take TV and computer away, he goes to bed early, sometimes gets time outs, sometimes has to write some paragraph writings on why his behavior was inappropriate, etc. The problem is - he still doesn't seem to get it. Is there anything else or better we can do or do we just keep letting him lose his privileges until he gets it?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:09 AM on Aug. 21, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
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Answer by MrsLeftlane at 11:18 AM on Aug. 21, 2010
When you punish a child you make the child resent you. You create a disrespectful little monster. How would you like it if your husband took computer and TV away, made you go to bed early, had to write why your behavior was inappropriate, and took away your privleges? You would resent him, disrespect him, have negative feelings about the world, ect. You might enjoy time-outs.
Punishment seldom stops bad behavior and never teaches good behavior. It teaches kids to behave worse, sneak, lie, and treat people in authority with disrespect. The most effective parenting style is called authoritative. If you google it you can find more about it.
Answer by Gailll at 11:19 AM on Aug. 21, 2010
Right now you need practical parenting help. Your child is 7 and you have been doing these things since he was a toddler. A good book is How to Talk So Kids Will Listen. It may get it so you are communicating. Don't expect things like "I" messages to work. "I" feel embarassed when you talk to the karate instructor like that." He doesn't care about your feelings. He may be glad you are embarassed.
There are parenting classes like Systematic Training for Effective Parenting that may be available in your community. Parents need things like classes and books because we aren't taught how to parent and we don't have good role models.
Answer by Gailll at 11:24 AM on Aug. 21, 2010
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