I am an adoptive mother, and I keep reading on this board about situations where adoptive parents close their adoption after agreeing to an open adoption. No judgement, just wondering why parents would change the terms? And if your answer is "best interest of the child", please explain in detail. Curious minds want to know.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:35 PM on Oct. 8, 2008 in Adoption
I guess it would be because some birth mothers won't let them adopted unless they agree to a open adoption, After the adoption is complete they go to a close it.
Answer by louise2 at 5:49 PM on Oct. 8, 2008
Answer by mommy9 at 6:30 PM on Oct. 8, 2008
Unfortunately, at least in our state, open adoption agreements are not enforceable by law. And yes, some adoptive parents agree to an open adoption just to get parental rights terminated...in essence, taking advantage of birth parents. In our case, we agreed to open adoptions that are only as open as we decide them to be, and for as long as we see fit. We have two adopted children and both birth-mothers are incredibly unstable, but in completely different ways. Contact is one-way so that they do not have our address and phone numbers...we felt it too risky. We have to build our family and make sure that our children know they are safe and stable. We will not allow our lives to be disrupted by people who choose not to take care of themselves. As my husband says, "We will not ride someone else's rollercoaster."
Answer by kerijo143 at 6:52 PM on Oct. 8, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 7:40 PM on Oct. 8, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 12:32 AM on Oct. 9, 2008
Answer by orangeorbie at 12:40 AM on Oct. 9, 2008