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Need help with difficult adult step children....anyone that can help me I would greatly appreciate it.

Help with difficult step children

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dgail

Asked by dgail at 9:22 AM on Jun. 30, 2008 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • It's reasonable to believe that in the marriage (and relationship with step children) there is to be mutual respect with no exceptions. Disregard to that respect should hold consequences. Talk with your h and determine what those consequences should be then both of you sit down with the difficult children and set these boundaries as a couple. That way you are not the wicked step mother making all the rules. As adults, these children should be living their own life and not tormenting your's. If they live with you encourage them to be independent (and leave). If they have their own home and life, politely yet firmly encourage them to devote their time and attention to them.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:33 AM on Jun. 30, 2008

  • ADULT children be they step/half/third/whole WHATEVER are simply that ADULT and thus should act like it - if they arent they need a REMINDER to be treated as adults you must first ACT/BE ADULTS

    if they are in your home and disrespecting you they must start or face the concequences - if they are visiting you and acting like rotten children that is unacceptable and they must change their behavior or face the concequences
    all in all BOTH parents should be firm in this belief or nothing will change but if your spouce loves you they will understand that this behavior is wrong and should be fixed immediately!
    vakatia

    Answer by vakatia at 11:49 PM on Jun. 30, 2008

  • ADULT children be they step/half/third/whole WHATEVER are simply that ADULT and thus should act like it - if they arent they need a REMINDER to be treated as adults you must first ACT/BE ADULTS

    if they are in your home and disrespecting you they must start or face the concequences - if they are visiting you and acting like rotten children that is unacceptable and they must change their behavior or face the concequences
    all in all BOTH parents should be firm in this belief or nothing will change but if your spouce loves you they will understand that this behavior is wrong and should be fixed immediately!
    vakatia

    Answer by vakatia at 11:49 PM on Jun. 30, 2008

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