So he tells me that he needs to work with himself because he knows he has anger problems. He wants to go to counseling to see if a separation would be a good idea. My issue is that he still wants to live together until he finds a new place. I find this hard to deal with because I don't want a separation and I'm trying to be patient but I think I should just give up. The last fight we had lasted a month without speaking and he basically told me he was done and that I was on my own. He was mad that I blew up about his mom in front of my daughter. In addition he feels that I neglected him and was too involved with school, work and never made time for us. That I never showed him love or appreciation. What is your opinion? I thought we were doing good before this argument and long an behold I got a list of things that he never communicated to me.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 7:46 PM on Aug. 22, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by calliesmommie at 7:49 PM on Aug. 22, 2010
Answer by Scuba at 7:51 PM on Aug. 22, 2010
He wants to live together until he finds a new place. He thinks you are over then you need to move his stuff out and file for custody and support if you have kids together. If you can live together and not talk to each other for a month then it isn't a good environment for any of you.
Answer by Gailll at 8:08 PM on Aug. 22, 2010
Sounds like there still is hope because it sounds like he's stalling on the separation issue. I've had arguments with my dh that lasted months, and few that has lasted years. But there was plenty of time that we could act civil with each other despite being so angry. If you haven't gone to relationship counselling, do so even if he decides to leave. Working on yourself is always invaluable. As to the list of things he didn't communicate before, take that list and see what you can do. He's communicating now and that's what you both need if your going to work things out. Is there truth to you neglecting the relationship? Just remember that his list is his truth as you have your own truth. Reality is somewhere in the middle. If you can devote time to him and the relationship, maybe that will ease some of his feelings of neglect.
Answer by isabellalecour at 9:52 AM on Aug. 23, 2010
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