My husband was adopted when he was just days old. He grew up in a vrey loving home but his parents died when he was 17 years old. my husband and his older sister (who was also adopted) have no clue about their biological parents or where they came from. The only family my husband has left are his sister, a niece, a nephew and his Aunt (which has been like a second mother to him). His Aunt just recently discovered that she has lung cancer in both lungs and liver cancer that cannot be treated. Hubby has said before that he has no interest in finding his biological parents but I have questions about health issues and would like to inquire about them. Even if it is only for medical reasons. I would never want to push him into meeting with them if he doesn't want to. Am I wrong for wanting him to find answers? How would he even get started when he doesn't know anything?? Can anyone help?Answer Question
You're not wrong for wanting to find them...but I would wait til hubby agrees.
Answer by FlyMom07 at 10:33 PM on Oct. 8, 2008
Answer by Kenzies_momma at 10:57 PM on Oct. 8, 2008
Answer by gdiamante at 1:20 AM on Oct. 9, 2008
I am an adoptee who began searching for medical info and background for my daughter. There was NO way that any one or anything would prevent me from obtaining MY info that would (perhaps) help diagnosis and treat and cure my daughters illness. She shouldn't have to die - just because I was adopted. Even our US Surgeon General has come up with an initiatives for people to collect and know their medical backgrounds......it is important!
I would not search without the adoptees desire and approval. If he has no need to know- imagine how difficult it would be to the Natural parent to be contacted by a spouse, and be told you JUST want info.........and then, disappear again. They are not just file cabinets filled with answers......
Answer by adopteeme at 5:25 AM on Oct. 9, 2008
Answer by adopteeme at 5:27 AM on Oct. 9, 2008
Answer by pinkcalla721 at 11:51 PM on Oct. 13, 2008
Answer by momsamillion at 10:47 AM on Oct. 17, 2008