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3 Bumps

do you believe in staying together for the kids?

Yes or no?

What if the husband is a good father, but just isn't husband material?

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ToriBabe1221

Asked by ToriBabe1221 at 12:14 PM on Aug. 23, 2010 in Parenting Debate

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Answers (34)
  • I would never stay with anyone, no matter how good of a father he was. He can be a good father without being married to me!
    rockinmomto2

    Answer by rockinmomto2 at 12:15 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • No, the children can see past that, it can put a strain on them.
    momov4kids

    Answer by momov4kids at 12:16 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • No I don't. I don't care if he is a good father or not. He can still be a good father without us being together. If a person stays just because of the kids, then I think in the long run it will only hurt them.
    itsallabtthem84

    Answer by itsallabtthem84 at 12:16 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • Absolutely not.. its harder on the children because they can feel the tension.
    SuperrMommyy

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 12:16 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • No, kids can sense when their parents are not truly happy. Even if parents split up both can still choose to be active participants in their child's life. And, the child gets to grow up with parents that are truly happy even if they do not live in the same home!
    mommy11260

    Answer by mommy11260 at 12:16 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • No. I was raised in a home where my parents felt it was best to stay together for the kids, and the constant fighting was horrible growing up. Even if children aren't watching their parents fight, they can still sense the tension in the household. Happy parents are important for happy children, regardless of their living situation. A good father will make sure he stays in his child's life regardless of whether or not he's living under the same roof or not.
    Ginger0104

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 12:16 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • NOOOOOO.
    ryanlynn

    Answer by ryanlynn at 12:16 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • Nope, it would never work. In fact it could cause more harm. I mean if, in a perfect world you could get along just fine and the kids not know, then maybe.. otherwise, it would be best to just be sep. IMO
    JuLiAnSmOmMy317

    Answer by JuLiAnSmOmMy317 at 12:17 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • another no.
    okmommy08

    Answer by okmommy08 at 12:17 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • I wouldnt have kids with him if I didnt plan on making it work, and working towards our relationship everyday!
    JoLee12345

    Answer by JoLee12345 at 12:18 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

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