I know he needs me! but I do have other obligations and sometimes he is clingy and needs alot of direction. He is extremly easily distracted and never has completed anything unless it has to do with reading. I have offered new books for chores or classes complete. I have threatened to take his books if not (this is the only thing that phases him) he isn't attached to anything but books so other things offered or threatened doesn't help. I know i am suppose to make him self responsible and reliable and an over all great citizen and adult but sometimes feel as if i am going backwards and will fail him. is there anything i can do to move him forward and help him help himself?Answer Question
Answer by Moonwhispers at 10:28 PM on Aug. 23, 2010
Answer by Zoeyis at 6:04 AM on Aug. 24, 2010
Answer by san78 at 6:36 AM on Aug. 25, 2010
Do look into behavioral therapy, but keep trying to make him responsible for something, even if it's small. For example, my now 10 yo son with ADD wouldn't do anything for himself but read or play video games. We started (at age 8) with a chore and a checklist/chart. Everyday he had to clean up his room. He did it, and he'd get a star or check or whatever we decided. 5 stars = 20 extra minutes of video game time or 20 extra minutes staying up late on Friday or Saturday reading. His choice. The next year, we added a chore, everything else stayed the same. This year, we are up to 3 chores a day with the same reward and extra chores HE decides to do earns him quarters. Those combined have turned him into quite an independent kid.
Answer by sokkamum at 11:29 AM on Aug. 25, 2010