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How did having kids affect your marriage?

Good? Bad? Ugly?

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elizabiza

Asked by elizabiza at 11:35 PM on Aug. 23, 2010 in Relationships

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  • growing pains.... but we worked through it. And now that we have teens... there are more growing pains. But each new stage is an adventure and brings unique joys.

    sahlady

    Answer by sahlady at 11:37 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • Both. All big changes will change a relationship for the better and worse.

    We learned a lot about one anothers limits and boundaries. We handle stress differently. Our expectations have changed.
    ecodani

    Answer by ecodani at 11:37 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • my husband married into an insta family. he was used to it cause he has a big family and we have one from both of us and he loves it. i love it. we want more and more. it hasn't really changed much since everything we did from the beginning always including some family as i had one of my own. 3 kids and i then he and then our new baby. it helps we both love kids and believe in family. there is nothing bad or ugly but just beauty and happiness.
    melody77

    Answer by melody77 at 11:45 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • All of the above! Like children go through phases, so does our marriage. I look back on the difficult times, and it seems like it's not just the kids that's negatively affecting our marriage. It's moving or a new job or outside family issues. Add babies to that stress, and it can make for a rough patch. We work through it, endure it, and come out on the other side closer than before.
    Journey311

    Answer by Journey311 at 11:46 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • It's made us stronger and closer. Even when we're aggravated with each other, our son is one thing that we always come together on, and enjoy. He can make us both smile in the worst of times, and that's a great thing to experience with someone. We both are just amazed that we created something so wonderful, and the joys of being parents is one thing we share no matter what. :)
    LovingSAHMommy

    Answer by LovingSAHMommy at 11:50 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • I think it strengthened ours, we decided to have kids pretty quickly after getting married though, so we've been on a constant whirlwind with transitions for the last 5 years.
    AshleyBDG

    Answer by AshleyBDG at 11:51 PM on Aug. 23, 2010

  • We were dating for 7yrs. Got pregnant "by surprise". and then got married 3yrs later....
    It made our relationship MUCH stronger!
    Our daughter helped us in many ways.. I dont think our relationship would have ever moved forward. Dating was comfortable for us. Also the day i found out i was pregnant i quit smoking. and he quit 1 year later. It was God's way of kicking us in our pants to move on in our life & do something :) We were idle for way too long just being ...
    MommaTasha1003

    Answer by MommaTasha1003 at 12:33 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • Sometimes the kids are the glue that keep the marriage together and some marriages would fall apart if there were kids in the mix.
    wheresthewayout

    Answer by wheresthewayout at 1:09 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • We had both kids before we where married. So there werent any big changes.
    Apple_Pie2010

    Answer by Apple_Pie2010 at 3:38 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • It didn't leave a lot of time for us but we managed to find time for each other. Now that the kiddies are grown we thought, " now it's just us". But recently we were given custody of our 12 yr old grandson and still we do okay.
    debnich501960

    Answer by debnich501960 at 1:52 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

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