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How would i get my 14 month old to stop crying at everything that she does not want to do

like bed time, getting put into car seat... during a normal day she maybe is quiet for 5 hrs... and that is usually when she is taking a nap(seriously)! got her to bed last night at one and tonight at 11. i must be doing some thing wrong :(

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Asked by Taylasmomma at 4:22 AM on Aug. 24, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • you need to let your one year old cry it out. she needs to learn that she can't always get her way

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:25 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • Is she for real crying? Or just faking/screaming/tantrum? If she's really crying, I would see if she has teeth coming in or is sick. If neither of those were the case, I would let her cry it out a bit and go from there. If you give in to her crying, then you'll just egg it on. She'll learn that crying gets her way and continue it. It's hard to ignore your childs cries, but sometimes it's very necessary.

    Answer by Mom2unangel at 4:41 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • i dont have any kids but i am really good with kidz. and it sounds like you baby her to much like give her what she wants and you let her do wat she wants. wat you need to do is when she cryz when you put her to bed. just put her in her bed go out of the room and shut the door and let her sounds mean but she dont need to cry every night you put her to bed. and its not you its just that you baby her to much. and as for when you put her in the car seat and she startz cryin dont even pay no attention to her. un till she stops cryin on her own. i am a baby sitter. and when the baby or kid i watch is like that i do every thing i just told you. if you want to ask me anyhting els feel free.

    Answer by boyorgirl524 at 4:42 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • close the door to her bedroom, put on some earmuffs and give yourself some sleep for about an hour or 2. Often babies cry themselves to sleep

    Answer by Zoeyis at 5:47 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • dont listen to these people! i have a baby coming into toddler stages. ok it is hard, you will want to pull out every hair in your head!! but you cant, your baby is having a hard time right now too with all the changes that are happening and the transition from baby to toddler. gently and with compassion, help guide her in the direction you want her to go. if you want her in her seat and she is screaming...take her out and walk around the car abit, maybe explain why she has to get in her seat. i have this exact same problem! right now mine screams if we come near the car seat! i dont know what it is but she just needs more understanding and compassion right now. try to imagine how it feels to be your child right now. if she is crying for no real reason, hold her and comfort her. let her feel those feelings and feel safe to do so. maybe she just needs some extra love and cuddles. it is hard but it will get better, i promiss!

    Answer by Preggydyke at 6:01 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • cont...the last thing you need to do is walk out on your child. she needs you right now, and it might suck for you cause you have a million other things to do, but you just gotta dig deep and be real patient. this is not going to last forever. give her extra love. and if you really need to, then maybe if you have a close friend or family that can come get her for a few hours to go for ice cream or something, to give you a chance to relax or get house work done or whatever. also mine likes to go for walks down the street when she is feeling overloaded. i just take her right out front and let her run. lol it helps. i hope all this helps, i know exactly where you are right now, i am there with you. good luck!

    Answer by Preggydyke at 6:04 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • Seriously your little girl will not die from crying, she will not die from you ignoring her cries for attention...what she will gain however is the idea that you are in charge & will not come crawling to her every whim. You are the parent & she has to learn how to work in the world she was brought into, not you letting her change the world that she has to live in, because it can't happen. All 3 of my children have been left to cry when they couldn't have their way & they are better children today for it!!


    Answer by KDBeckham at 9:49 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • it is a hard lesson for babies to learn that they have to do things they don't want to do, and they don't always get what they want. this is hard even for adults to learn, so babies have a hard time dealing with it. my son is 20 months and he still has emotional days where he throws himself on the ground and cries because he doesn't get his way. just make sure you're spending a lot of time playing with her and laughing and being happy. you are a good mom and you're not doing anything wrong. as for bed time and car seat, just let her deal with it, if she cries oh well. my son gets a bath, jammies, some water, and then it's bed time, and i go put him in his crib and say night night and walk away. he cries sometimes but oh well. i tell him its bed time and that's all there is to it. a little crying never hurt a baby as long as their needs are taken care of and its not for extended periods of time

    Answer by Butterflysky_24 at 12:39 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • thank you all so much... i hope that trying some of these help... she is starting to lose her voice from crying so much, so im not sure how letting her cry will help, but im willing to try anything at this point. again thank you.

    Comment by Taylasmomma (original poster) at 4:10 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

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