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Please help! Lately my husband acts like hes not a parent and doesnt know what to do and is constantly saying the F word to our children!

Ughh lately my husband has been acting like he doesnt know what to do as a parent. Like last night the kids were throwing there food and after i asked them once to stop i asked him to do something and hes like "what am i suppose to do?" and i said seriuosley! your a parent! figure it out, i shouldnt have to tell you how to parent!! of course i ended up taking care of it and then he came to try n take over. And the other thing is he is constantly saying the F word at them! Like every time he yells at them he says it at least once sometimes every other word! I dont know what to do ive been on his case about the swearing for like 3 months and hes not getting any better! any advice would be great! thanks

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mommyofone15

Asked by mommyofone15 at 10:45 AM on Aug. 24, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • thats pretty bad, may need to get a professional to help him out on that.
    Zoeyis

    Answer by Zoeyis at 10:46 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • sounds like he may need to go talk to a professional. He may need help parenting. Some people don't take to parenting automatically and by saying what you said, you pointed out something he might be struggling with.
    twinsplus2more

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 10:47 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • What is the reason for his behavior? Maybe he should talk to someone if he won't open up to you
    dragonlady44

    Answer by dragonlady44 at 10:49 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • lol right! ok so the next thing how do i get him to GO get help? like i could set it all up n stuff but i think there will be major issues getting him to GO
    mommyofone15

    Comment by mommyofone15 (original poster) at 10:50 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • It could be he is under alot of pressure at work and the stress of the children and being home is bothering him or bugging him. Maybe take a trip as a family to get away from the stress of work and home. Or even do something as a family to talk about things and see how you can get the children to listen and your husband to calm down.
    Claudiomom

    Answer by Claudiomom at 11:07 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • you say "lately" which to me --- seems like he USED to be better --- or it isnt lately - it is all the time.. if he used to know what to do - and not swear than try to get him back to that place... otherwise i would tell him that if he said the f word at my child i think i would deck him - which is also bad... but you have to stop that before your kids pick it up.. is he honestly lost or is he just playing dumb to get out of the work?
    AmaliaD

    Answer by AmaliaD at 11:30 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • Sounds like a swear jar is in order :) See because once you have a swear jar people start to really notice how much they swear. As for the parenting thing, maybe the two of you ought to sit down and come up with some ground rules that the two of you enforce this way it isn't just one parent trying to make all of the rules.
    littlestar85257

    Answer by littlestar85257 at 11:34 AM on Aug. 24, 2010

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