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My 9 yr old likes to throw tantrums. Any suggestions?

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Asked by lbjd457 at 5:42 PM on Aug. 24, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • wow. I guess take away privileges.

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 5:43 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • I agree with butterflyblue. Start taking things away. When he/she starts having a tantrum send him/her to their room.

    Answer by PoisonousBlonde at 5:47 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • I think you need to reward him when he stops having them. It's almost like reverse thinking. What you are doing is teaching him not to have them since he is a little old to be having them. You need to keep talking to him to try and break him of this cycle of having a tantrum when he doesn't get his way and get him to discuss and talk to you instead of the tantrum. If he accomplishes it then you reward his actions for seeing this new way of handling things.

    Answer by CafeMochaMom1 at 5:53 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • I just looked at the questions you have been posting and it looks like you have this problem with all of your kids. Your 10 and 9 year old don't listen and your 17 yr old doesn't want work. Maybe you should be harder on the kids. Set up some expectations for them and stick to them. Take all their priveledges away and tell them that they have to earn them back if they want them.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 5:56 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • i would spank her, if she's young enough to throw tantrums then she's young enough to get a spanking.

    Answer by angevil53 at 7:16 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • First don't give in to the tantrums and you don't accept the behavior, Don't give them what they want. Send them to their room and tell them when they are done being angry and ready to apologize they can come out, and mean it. If they won't go - you take them, if they come out, you put them back. They need to know you mean it. Once they have stopped and are ready to apologize you tell them you accept their behavior and that you will not allow that type of behavior, that it is okay to be upset or angry but that is not the way to deal with our feelings. Then provide suggestions to what would be a better to deal with whatever it is that started it in the first place, if its just a matter of wanting something and you said no - you explain why you said no and you still don't give in.

    Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 9:03 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • i just sit an look @ when they done i show them an adult tantrum...guess who's is worst...i been doin them way longer than they

    Answer by FreeSpriT4eva at 10:05 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • i agree with butterfly also

    Answer by san78 at 6:30 AM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • Instead of sending them to their rooms (where all the toys are), put them in a room without anything fun. I use the guest room but any room where there is nothing dangerous and nothing good to play with. When my daughter has a tantrum, it's straight into the "naughty room" where she'll continue for about another minute until she realises no one is giving her any attention. Also, IMO sending a child to their room can make bed time difficult as they can get it confused with punishment.

    Answer by MegWorthington at 12:11 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

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