I had an affair for about four months with a single guy I met and became obviously more than friends with a the gym I used to go to. It felt amazing while it was occuring, but ended 2-1/2 years ago. It was very wrong to begin with, but my marriage is in a much better place now. Then, I thought my husband kind of had it coming (though he has never cheated to my knowledge). I look at him now and think "how could I have done this?" The guilt is killing me and I want to come clean!!Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:23 PM on Aug. 24, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by sarahar at 6:25 PM on Aug. 24, 2010
It's your choice, I would leave things alone and just be happy while things are good.
Answer by DesertRose75 at 6:27 PM on Aug. 24, 2010
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Answer by SlapHappi at 9:18 PM on Aug. 24, 2010
Don't do it. Seriously don't do it.
Why disturb the trust and relationship you have build up? It's nothing more than selfishness in trying to get rid of the guilt. Instead you will go though hell because it will be fresh to him. Have you read some things in this section some of these 'loving' husbands do to their wives when the affair is revealed? It's horrible and way too often leads to divorce because they don't know how to process their emotions and communicate the hurt. If you love him and want to stay married, keep your mouth shut. Learn to deal with the grief. If you want to divorce, go ahead and tell him.
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