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How many kids did you want before you had kids, and how many did you want after your 1st?

I started out wanting 3. Now I want 2 or 4. It seems funny, but I don't like the idea of one middle child anymore for some reason. 2 or 4 seems better for our family. (I only have one 2-year-old now.) What about you? Did your "ideal number" change after your 1st?


Asked by Kisses4Henry at 10:09 PM on Aug. 24, 2010 in Just for Fun

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Answers (20)
  • I wanted 2, I now have 4 and I want 1 or 2 more now :)

    Answer by momov4kids at 10:14 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • I wanted 4-5 before my first and that number stayed the same after her... but my second pregnancy was an ectopic and that scared me... I thought I might just want one more, but now that I've had a totally healthy pregnancy and a wonderful homebirth I'm back to wanting 4-5 :)

    Answer by Ati_13 at 10:15 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • i wanted at least 4 and i still want at least 4

    Answer by aliishott2 at 10:10 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • I've always wanted 2 but I have 2 bio and 1 step but hubby wants one more bio, he's hoping for one more girl to make it even.

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 10:13 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • I want 2 kids, I have 3 now and I'm done.

    Answer by PoisonousBlonde at 10:15 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • opps want= wanted.

    Answer by PoisonousBlonde at 10:16 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • I wanted 4 before I had kids, and now with two kids I still want four. I think two is too little, and I am like you with 3, I was a middle child and hated it, I dont want one kid to feel left out like that.

    Answer by -LovingMamma- at 10:16 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • I knew at an early age that I loved kids. I wanted 10, but had 4. Over the yeras i have had custody of 1 nephew and 3 grandsons, so I came close to ten. What was I thinking?

    Answer by 2ndmama28358 at 10:16 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • I always wanted 4 children. But I only had 3. Three great kids,though! :-)

    Answer by gertie41 at 10:16 PM on Aug. 24, 2010

  • sure did. I was hoping to starting having babies at 23 and wanted maybe 4 kids. I birthed at 30 and my son had a birth accident, so my first has a brain injury (and is very autistic like) and he consumed so much of my life, but I still wanted to mother a typically abled child too. At 36 I adopted baby DD and at 41 I adopted my last baby. We are a even number of 4 for a family, so I get that number thing~

    educating the bunch is what costs so much~

    Answer by surfcitymom at 10:17 PM on Aug. 24, 2010