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He wants oral, I want do we get our needs met sexually? adult content

When my so and I want to have sex, it's always the same problem: he wants oral sex, which I don't like doing, and I want vaginal penetration, which he enjoys but he loses his stamina easily (he's a big man). So we're laying on the bed, naked and horny, and FRUSTRATED. How do we reach an agreement so both our needs are met? I could go down on him first, but that doesn't really make me horny. He could penetrate me first, but then he wants to stick his penis in my mouth immediately afterward which makes me wanna gag.


Asked by Anonymous at 9:02 PM on Aug. 25, 2010 in Relationships

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  • I went through the same situation with my DH, he's extremely well endowed and I love penetration while he throughly enjoys oral. I never liked it because I didn't like the taste of his skin (the soap he used dried it out and of course it tasted like soap lol). So we came up with a compromise; I got the penetration FIRST under MY control (ea. cowgirl, so I know when to stop prior to him "finishing") then, I'd give him oral by applying a bit of something onto his penis (MPC BBQ sauce, LOL--started during pregnancy, total craving for BBQ ribs, had the sauce, no ribs though! LOL) and I'd finish DH off easily because the sweet & tangy sauce distracted me from the salty bitterness of his semen! Hope this eases your mind a bit, LOL! Have a great night!

    Answer by Rathgeber3 at 10:39 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • Have him play with you while you service him, then if it's a problem with him not being able to go very long, try being on top.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:10 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • Oh boy, with all this sex talk I can't wait until he gets here.

    Answer by mamaofficer at 9:29 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • I don't like oral either. I hate the taste of flesh. So I use whip cream or chocolate syrup, or perform oral in the shower, that way all I taste it the water. I'm also with a larger man. When he gets tired we just switch. I hop on top. Lol.

    Answer by reigndrops12689 at 9:32 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • Straight sex first,rest,then oral on him for round 2
    If you're clean,you should really try getting over the stigma of your own vaginal secretions possibly coming into contact with your mouth.Just wipe him off and go to town!

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 9:05 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • Um, get a toy and do 69?

    Answer by ToriBabe1221 at 9:05 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • 69

    Answer by HTMommy at 9:15 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • yeah, if he's that big, you're gonna have to do the dirty work= DH and I have to go at it two or three times until I finish, but he gets it done!

    Answer by lovinangels at 9:23 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • if he is a big guy that cant keep it up he needs to lose weight but for now u gonna have to take control get the top get your self off do anything then do him

    Answer by cnoble927 at 10:09 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • I would buy a vibrator and try that.

    Answer by Mom2Just1 at 10:33 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

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