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need some advice!!!!! asap...and dont troll me or anything plz adult content

so me and my husband have been together four years and i recently left him for a couple of months and i met a new guy(who also is married)....i am back with my s\o and i am still talking to my "friend"...we live 17 hours away from each other but when i do go back to la i might go see him again....i dont know how to stop thinking about him or what ever

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:13 PM on Aug. 25, 2010 in Relationships

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  • You need to make up your mind who you want to be with. Its not fair to either guy.

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 10:14 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • cut of all contact with him

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 10:14 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • Its one or the other! You can't have both men. Quit playing with both of their emotions and pick who you want.

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 10:16 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • do you love your husband and want to still be with him? If so then you should try to work things out with him if not then you need to make up your mind because its not easy to find the one you love like they say never leave the one you love for the one you have lust for or like because they will leave you for the one that they love.

    Answer by mommy2b924 at 10:16 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • I'm going to give it to you straight. When ever you start thinking of the other guy, stop and think about another woman playing "mommy" to your child(ren). If you leave your husband for good, then he has a right to move on and he will eventually meet someone else, someone you don't know, someone who may or may not be the kind of person you want around your child, someone who may or may not treat your child kindly....and you will have zero control over it.

    AND get ready to "visit" you child on holidays, weekends, summers, and birthdays. EVEN IF you have full custody, you will have to split all those events with your ex - Are you ready to wake up on your child's birthday only to have to send him/her over to his dad's house for the entire day? Are you ready to wake up on Christmas morning to silence because your child(ren) is with their father and not you??

    Think about what you will lose if you go to thoughts of him...

    Answer by texassahm at 10:20 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • Stop... experience on my end says stop now.. you'll only hurt in the end.

    Answer by kbishop8688 at 10:21 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • Do what makes you happy

    Answer by mamaofficer at 10:22 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • Unless your husband is abusive or unfaithful or you just do not Love him anymore forget the other man and work on your marriage. There is a reason he is your husband. at one time you must have lved him. Relive that reason and try to keep your relationship.

    Answer by nanny29 at 10:24 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • its best to bring complete closure to your marriage before you move on.


    Answer by virginiamama71 at 10:26 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

  • A clean break will help.

    Answer by PoisonousBlonde at 10:27 PM on Aug. 25, 2010

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