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Spanking mothers: when did y0u/ will you stop?

Just out of curiousity, when did the mothers out there stop spanking their children or when do they plan too?

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Asked by MegWorthington at 8:21 AM on Aug. 26, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • When they are out of my house, or if they no longer need it.

    Answer by momof3josephs at 8:22 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • I stopped when they were 5. Not a conscious decision - I think because I did spank, I don't have to. Any problems were nipped in the bud when my kids were young.

    Answer by missanc at 8:24 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • If they lived at home at 18, you would still spank them if needed?

    No judgements, my son is 15 and people tell me he's too old. I believe if he deserves it, he is not too ol.d

    Comment by MegWorthington (original poster) at 8:25 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • I spanked my son a few times when he was younger but once he was about 4 or 5 it stopped. He was just getting to old in my opinion and there were other ways to disipline him.

    Answer by Finkette at 8:26 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • Idk. My sons only five, I find my self spanking him less & less, but at the same time if nothing else is working I still do it.

    Answer by lilmoosesmom at 8:28 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • I would still do it when he was 18, or have his dad do it if he were to big. I agree that after about 5-6, they rarely need it anymore, since most issues were solved when they were young, but there will still be times, especially as a teenager....

    Answer by momof3josephs at 8:33 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • I know my mother stop spanking me at around 10 years old. So it all depends on your child i guess some kids learn the first time they get hit and some kids dont really care about a beating or two.

    Answer by MomAsia at 8:36 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • when they act as i tell them the first time, they always have a chance to not get spanked but if they act up it's got to be there

    Answer by angevil53 at 8:40 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • I spank mines and he about to be 15. I will tell them to mind there own business.

    Answer by mamaofficer at 8:47 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • IDK...adults don't use physical harm to discipline or prove a point to each other. Why do it to a child? I taught my DD how to behave properly, so i have never had to spank her. She knows if she mis-behaves, she is not going to her girlfriend's house, she will miss swimming class or art studio, her play-date will be canceled. She knows her consequences. If you still need to spank your son at 15, then its obvious your spanking did not actually teach him how to behave properly. Maybe you need to try a different form of discipline.


    Answer by samurai_chica at 8:54 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

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