I am very close to my 8 year old nephew, who's parents(his mom is my sister), were divorce a year in a half ago. Do you think it's in his best interest to remind him that he has 2 families? He really thinks he has just one family but that they live in 2 different homes. The only reason I am concerned is because whenever he goes on vacations with his dad and his stepmom and his stepsiblings, he will not recollect that he even did those things when you try and bring it up to him about a month later. However, any vacation he's gone on with his mom, he'll recollect 6 months later, clear as a bell. His mom and I are thinking this may be the reason, that he is not fully comprehending that daddy has a new life and mommy has a new life. What are your thoughts?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:51 AM on Aug. 26, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by Mommy2Gabrielle at 11:54 AM on Aug. 26, 2010
Answer by mum-to-a-cutie at 11:56 AM on Aug. 26, 2010
Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 11:56 AM on Aug. 26, 2010
Answer by Danishlady at 12:06 PM on Aug. 26, 2010
My ex remarried when my kids were 8 & 5 and their step-mother couldn't have children. She started telling them they had two homes and two families. They didn't like that and I really didn't like that. They had one home and they visited their father. I talked to my ex and he put he agreed and put her in her place. Over the years there would be time when she would try to make my kids her family and they wouldn't like it and my ex would always put her back in her place. As long as she remembered that she was just the wife of their father and that they had a home and it wasn't her home then everyone was fine. The boys were well behaved and she didn't have problems with them.
Answer by Gailll at 12:09 PM on Aug. 26, 2010
When my boys were 22 and 25 the step-mother died suddenly. They have good memories of her and of vacations they took with their father and her. They never wanted to spend summers with their dad because they would really be with her 24/7 and not see their dad much. Their dad didn't care when they were young. He liked being around them more as they got to be teens. They worked at scout camp all summer so they didn't have to stay with dad. The camp was near their dad's house and he could go see them when he wanted.
When parents are divorced different things work for different families. My kids had a relationship with their dad and step-mom that like the relationship I had with my grandparents; weekend visits, a few vacations, holiday get-togethers.
Answer by Gailll at 12:18 PM on Aug. 26, 2010
Answer by mom2mybabes at 3:17 PM on Aug. 26, 2010