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ok here goes: i have two beautiful daughters and when it comes time to visit dad evry other weekend i have a hard time getting them to go they say they hate it over there and that they feel they r not treated right! i guess im asking what i can do or should do?

dad has legal visitation and does pay child support

 
jojo3376

Asked by jojo3376 at 1:08 PM on Aug. 26, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Talk to the dad and see what he has to say. Maybe stop by for an unannounced visit. Maybe talk to the court to see if there is anything you can do. My kids have refused to go to their dads house. I think it maybe be for the same reason and that they don't like the way he treats me.
    ladyluke2007

    Answer by ladyluke2007 at 1:12 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • How old are the girls? And what kind of relationship do you have with him at this point?

    You need to encourage their relationship with their father.
    gramsmom

    Answer by gramsmom at 1:11 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • Also, what are their beefs exactly?
    gramsmom

    Answer by gramsmom at 1:11 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • you should talk to their father and ask him whats going on...
    proudmommy690

    Answer by proudmommy690 at 1:11 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • how old are they? if he has legal visitation, and they aren't in any immediate danger, they have to go. you can go to court to get this changed, but you need to have proof of any maltreatment, if they are not old enough to decide for themselves.
    gracefulsky

    Answer by gracefulsky at 1:11 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • Just get his side of the story, and say if you'd rather take a break from them I will because of them hating it over there, and let him fill in why or why not.
    If they are bored it could be he isn't much fun, and they like you more. COmpliment him for the time, but also say is their some other arrangement that we can opt to do like letting him get more involved with giving him time to think about it, and give him a deadline of 2 weeks. but be firm, and have him write down some ideas to keep the girls happy/occupied/and interested.
    coffeeyum

    Answer by coffeeyum at 1:20 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

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