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Why does my MIL still use my first married name?

When ever she writes me a check or addresses an E mail to me she still uses my ex husbands name. Not even my maiden name. I really find it annoying and insulting, kinda like a freudian slip. Like subconsciously she is not accepting me as her DIL. What do you think? She hypenates her name with her first husband and her second husband's names. I


Asked by Esmrlda at 5:59 PM on Aug. 26, 2010 in Relationships

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  • She's probably being a bitch. My bitchy grandma does that to an aunt who didn't take my uncle's last name. Your MIL knows what she's doing. Call her out on it.

    Answer by michelle121003 at 7:20 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • Yep,sounds like a slap in the face tactic. Passive-agressive

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 6:07 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • Maybe she thinks that is your maiden name?

    Answer by queen.bee at 6:13 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • just ask her to use your husbands name with your name when addressing you. i would like to see what she says to that or her reaction. this is odd. not very nice at all.

    Answer by melody77 at 8:09 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • my SIL does that to my mom... uses her maiden name and not the name she carries know which is my last name.... it drives her NUTS and pisses her off.... yep I would say it's a slap in the face!!

    Answer by randilinn at 10:24 PM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • wow slap in face to me

    Answer by regian19832002 at 12:34 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • you really think this is subconcious?? like she doesn't know what her own kid's last name is??

    Answer by figaro8895 at 11:52 PM on Aug. 26, 2010