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how do i deal with her?

the cheer coordinator for our team has no idea what she is doing. she doesnt keep the coaches informed, tells us what to teach the girls 5 min b4 practice starts, gets upset when the coaches (who r volunteering) ask a ? about anything, tells parents info and forgets to tell the coaches, puts too much effort on little things that r already being taken care of, doesnt care about important things that need attention, gets made when the coaches try to help, doesnt want to ask parents for help, and now that it is falling down on her she is trying to make the coaches look bad. well it isnt our fault she doesnt know what she is doing. we all try to help but she just gets mad. so no one wants to do anything for her. i have tried talking to her, but has an 'we'll take care of it later" attitude. what do i do to make her see that she is doing what the last one did and that is why 1/2 the girls didnt come back.

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Asked by teddybear2272 at 12:20 AM on Aug. 27, 2010 in Relationships

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  • sounds like you need a new cheer coordinator

    Answer by glenndoir at 12:22 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • new cheer coordinator

    Answer by regian19832002 at 12:25 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • I think you should make a detailed list of who needs to know what, what they need to know and in general how things are to be done. Give her the list, have the items not her responsibility clearly delegated to others. Let everyone have this list (sort of like a chain of command). Once it is in writing she can't dismiss it. Then if that doesn't work, I agree with the others. Get a new coordinator. GL

    Answer by Austinsmom35 at 10:04 PM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • she sounds like a micromanager who isnt very good at it lol. She wants people to do their part, and "help out" but then gets mad as what she really means is"do it my way".
    ugh, very bad for impressionable young girls to see as an example, yanno?
    whomever is in charge of her position, go to that person and talk over your concerns, without being petty or gossipy. you can do that with a detailed (but again not snotty) list of issues such as delegating tasks,a nd lack of communication skills.
    good luck!

    Answer by Bearsjen at 11:13 AM on Aug. 28, 2010

  • austinsmom-what u suggest to do is what i want HER to do. that is HER job. and i was doing a lot at the beginning. we started back in july getting stuff set up. but anytime me or anyone else tried to help her, did too much suggested we do it anyway but hers she would get mad. she literary told me "all u have to worry about is when to call ur squads parents and tell them what i tell u to tell them." so i stopped helping. and so have alot of others. and now she is drowning. getting made cause no one wants to help her anymore and she is having to figure it out on herself.
    bearsjen-i have talked to a few board members about her, but they r reluctant to remove her, because we have already lost someone who was doing alot of the work (she was suppose) to be doing. this situation should have made them realize how immature she is. but the other person said she was done and was not gonna have anything to do (see next comment

    Comment by teddybear2272 (original poster) at 11:04 AM on Aug. 29, 2010

  • with her anymore. she has burned so many bridges and doesnt see that she is making things worse with the attitude she has. the only good thing that she has done is say that she is not gonna be the head again next year. thank goodness! but we still have all season to deal with her. i just wish she would open her eyes and see that is only hurting the girls and limiting the experiances that they should be having.

    Comment by teddybear2272 (original poster) at 12:15 PM on Aug. 29, 2010

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