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Did you marry your opposite or someone similiar?

Spouses don't become more alike in their personalities as their marriage progresses, contrary to perceptions.

Rather, spouses often seem similar in character because they start out that way, a new study suggests. People tend to pick their partners based on shared personality traits, researchers say.

The findings are published in the November issue of the journal Personality and Individual Differences.

Surveying spouses

Researchers know spouses are more similar to each other than to random people, but there's debate about how this happens.

"This could reflect spouses' influence on each other over time, or this could be what attracted them to each other in the first place." said study author Mikhila Humbad, a doctoral candidate in clinical psychology at Michigan State University.


Asked by sweet-a-kins at 9:00 AM on Aug. 27, 2010 in Politics & Current Events

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  • Eliza- My husband and I are identical save the the E (me) and I (him). My husband always tells people that coming from a large family of mainly boys, he got the "F" beat out of him.

    My husband has more patience and is way more PC than I-hence why he his management and I'm a lowly nurse. In terms of strengths and weaknesses- exact opposites. My husband is in to finance, money, numbers, building, technology, computers- I like to read, write, cook, garden, science. We've got it all covered.




    Answer by Sisteract at 11:20 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • we're very much alike, then very much different. how's that work?

    Answer by dullscissors at 9:01 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • We're more alike than different. We have all the core values the same. Religion,politics,morals

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 9:08 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • We're a lot alike. We even finish each others sentences and usually know what the other is thinking. We've been like that since the day we met, we just seem to "fit."

    Answer by Scuba at 9:05 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • Our core values are the same. Attitudes and demeanor are not...

    Answer by ShelbysHope at 9:26 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • We were more opposite when we met 20 years ago. Overall we want the same things in life. We just see different ways of getting there. Never a dull moment. ;)

    Answer by grlygrlz2 at 11:03 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • busy busy busy with the yahoo pages this morning, eh?

    Answer by jewjewbee at 9:03 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • I went with the philosophy of finding someone who shares the same religious and political views and similar goals and aspirations in life. We have been together for 10 years. I am an artist and my husband is a medical doctor. we have many differences in what we like but we shared views in the core issues.

    Answer by at 9:07 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • My husband and I have always had a lot in common. We've been best friends since 6th grade. We're each others intellectual equals, both have a passion for music, can practically read each others minds and finish each others sentences, share the same memories, believe along the same lines (although he was raised in a very fundamentalist line of thought), feel the same about issues like gay rights, etc, etc. We really feel like we were made for each other, lol. :)

    Answer by bandgeek521 at 9:24 AM on Aug. 27, 2010

  • physically we are the opposite but our personality are the same we think alike like the same things

    Answer by cnoble927 at 9:29 AM on Aug. 27, 2010