My hubby has a job that he doesn't like, but does because he wants to provide for us. If he has a hard day he usually ends up taking it out on me and DD. NOT physically, but yelling, a lot. If he's having a day where he's just short tempered about everything he always says he's irritated, and tired, and most the time hungry. I'm trying to make it so he doesn't have to have days like that, but it doesn't seem to matter what I do. Is it me?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:48 PM on Aug. 27, 2010 in Relationships
If your husband is going to keep his job he needs to learn stress management. You could suggest this and maybe do it as a couple. Mindful relaxation is very effective and has been in the news lately. Even deep breathing that takes just seconds to do can elicit a relaxation response. Ultimately he is responsible for his behavior.
One of my friends husbands had a long, stressful commute. He would have an hour of quiet time alone before interacting with the family. It sounds extreme but it worked for them and it kept them married.
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It's not so much about how long he's been there, it's not the kind of job that he's made for. He's basically doing a desk job. It's not him, I know it's not him. He needs to be out putting in all his strength to hard labor. Back-breaking hard labor, be outside, using his talents. But where we live he can't get that. I feel bad that he can't, I really want him to actually want to go to work for reasons other than just providing. But we'd have to move to another city, if not another state.
Answer by KricketMother09 at 5:23 PM on Aug. 27, 2010