my baby just turned one month. when i gave birth i tore only a little bit. no big tears at all, just a few small ones yet they insisted on sewing me and they took well over an hour because they were hurting me so i kept recoiling. i didn't get to hold my new baby until over an hour after she was born. they could have at least let me hold her while they were sewing me. the bonding of mother to child happens in the first half hour and my husband held her for that first half hour and i can clearly see that she feels closer to him. i play with her, give her kisses, tell her how much i love her yet she's clearly more content when she's with him and it makes me wanna cry. my husband thinks i'm being ridiculous and that she loves me and ik she does but i feel like she prefers him cause she bonded with him first...am i crazy for feeling this way?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 4:37 AM on Aug. 29, 2010 in Babies (0-12 months)
Answer by Eris822 at 4:58 AM on Aug. 29, 2010
Answer by LaDanseuse at 5:02 AM on Aug. 29, 2010
Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 5:14 AM on Aug. 29, 2010
I think you are a little crazy for thinking likes this. But, at the same time I remember crying for weeks when my DD was like 5-6 months old cause I worked and she was home with daddy all day then he went to work at night so really she never knew he was ever gone cause by this time she was sleeping though the night so she went to bed before he left and she would still be sleeping by the time he got home most of the time.Yes bonding with your child in first half an hour is very important but taking as far as thinking that she prefers her father over you is crazy.Momma she loves you and she loves daddy. Daddy may do something that comforts her and you have something that comforts her.Momma trust me I learned this hard way and I went though a lot of tears and heart ache thinking this. What it came down to for me is that I felt very guilty for having to work so much and feeling left out cause her and daddy had all day 2-gether.
Answer by raemommy at 5:19 AM on Aug. 29, 2010
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Answer by Nyx7 at 5:23 AM on Aug. 29, 2010
Answer by cookie269 at 6:33 AM on Aug. 29, 2010
I wondered about this myself. When my dd was born, immediately after her birth I went into some type of seizure and her daddy held her first. After I was stabilized, and the hospital was evacuated, I only got to see my dd almost 12 hours later. Once I held her to me, she just snuggled up and we bonded then. With my son, they whisked him off to the NICU and when the doctor said I could get up and walk and take a shower, I then went down and met my son. He was about 8 hours old, but it was over 24 hours before I could hold him. My son and I bonded very well after that.
Answer by Joeygoat at 7:16 AM on Aug. 29, 2010
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