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What to do about a bum daddy, im tired!!

So my little girl is 2 1/2 he wasnt around for the first part of her life and at 1 we got FOC involved he's amways ignored the schedualed visitations, infact he's only seen her 5 times in the past 7 months, its there anyway to just get him to go away, lawyer says he cant just sign off his right or make him do so. i want to bad, he never sees her, used to beat us both when we wre together, even though it doesnt matter cuz of lack of evidence, and he wont work claims he's "sick" and collects disability but wont report it to FOC so i get you guessed it NOTHING. She hate seeing him always screams never gets excited im jsut tired of making complaints going to court left and right and most of all all the horrible comments e-mail and harrasment i get from him, im doing this at a 20 year old single mom, he has a new wife and doest give a damn about his kid, what else can i do**

Kari

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LiL_MaMa_Kari

Asked by LiL_MaMa_Kari at 4:11 PM on Oct. 10, 2008 in Relationships

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  • he use to beat the child ??? who needs that evidence
    mommynbabygirl

    Answer by mommynbabygirl at 4:14 PM on Oct. 10, 2008

  • move, just stay away and make a new life without him and stop trying to get support. your losing this battle. there is only so much the courts can do. i would report that he is getting disability and then hopefully after some time of him abusing the system they will get him. it's not worth what you are going through. so stop. get state help and get a regular job and start fresh in another city but even better another state. that's what i would do.
    melody77

    Answer by melody77 at 4:26 PM on Oct. 10, 2008

  • i wouldnt waste my time if i were u.
    lovecutebabies

    Answer by lovecutebabies at 4:28 PM on Oct. 10, 2008

  • Keep all of the emails, print them out and save them. Don't answer the phone, let him leave a message. Save any threatening messages. Take them to the police and get a restraining order. Look in to services in your area for battered women a children. They will be able to help you better than anyone. They will know what the laws are in your state and will know what you can do legally to keep him away from you and your child. Good luck!
    amydh

    Answer by amydh at 6:20 PM on Oct. 10, 2008

  • He can sign all rights away for the child BUT you wont get any child support ever. In other words he'll just be a sperm donor. If you can proove that he is getting disability and not paying, and not doing the scheduled visitation then you can try to sue for full custody instead of joint.
    makaena

    Answer by makaena at 6:26 PM on Oct. 10, 2008

  • You have to do what ever it takes to completely cut him out of your life and your child's. Stop all contact with him, one step at a time. Don't ever call him. Try to "miss" his calls. Be unavailable when he occasionally calls for a visit. Doesn't sound like he'll fight you too much..............if he does....pm me! :)
    robinann5

    Answer by robinann5 at 12:52 AM on Oct. 11, 2008

  • GIRL U SHOULD JUST LET THAT GO IF HE DONT WANT TO BE THERE ITS BETTER FOR U AND UR BABY CAUSE IF A MAN PUTS HIS HANDS ON ME R MY BABY THERE WILL BE A NEW SNAPPED ON ABORD CUT HIM OFF ALL THE WAY JUST BE HAPPY U HAVE A BEATIFUL BABY AND THAT BABY LOVES AND NEED U JUST HAVE FAITH AND PREY EVERY NIGHT
    BLESSEDMOM3101

    Answer by BLESSEDMOM3101 at 1:15 AM on Oct. 11, 2008

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