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What's the best advice you would send to a new mom?

If she mailed this to you..
I'm a new Mommy-To-Be...
Please give some helpful hints
on how to raise a new baby!

My helpful hint for you:
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Always here to help, ____________________________________

 
MTM

Asked by MTM at 2:20 PM on Aug. 29, 2010 in General Parenting

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Answers (13)
  • 98% of child car seats are installed improperly. Be careful to read the instructions that came with yours and install it properly.
    luvsmysonjames

    Answer by luvsmysonjames at 2:24 PM on Aug. 29, 2010

  • Trust your instincts. Ask for help if needed, don't try to be superwoman and overload yoursef.
    keisha613

    Answer by keisha613 at 2:23 PM on Aug. 29, 2010

  • Don't second guess yourself. You may get all the advice in the world thrown at you, but you are that child's mother and you know your child better than anyone else.
    JulieJacobKyle

    Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 2:26 PM on Aug. 29, 2010

  • PUT DOWN THE PARENTING BOOK! They are full of practical advice for the perfect family with the perfect child in the perfect day to day - none of which exists... Question EVERYTHING you hear & parent by instinct and love over any "official advice"

    Research issues like Vaccines, Circumcision, Childhood Ear Piercings and Breastfeeding and make the best informed choices for YOU and YOUR FAMILY... Don't buy in to propaganda!

    You RARELY need all the pricey stuff, things like a rocker, changing table and potty chair for every room, just aren't needed... Save your money for stuff you will actually use and check second hand and consignment shops for the big things, a crib is a crib, why pay double?
    SabrinaMBowen

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 2:29 PM on Aug. 29, 2010

  • Sleep when the baby sleeps if you can. Those 2-3 hour stretches at night just don't cut it!
    Take all advice you get with a grain of salt and pay attention at who it comes from. Some will be great, some will be so far off the wall you wonder if the lady needs a cool new white coat.
    It's perfectly natural to look at your kid when it's the middle of the night and he/she has been crying for two strait hours, full stomach, clean diaper, and you wonder if it was switched at birth with an alien.
    Don't worry if you think your baby looks weird when you first hold it, most of them do.
    A oddly shaped head at birth will correct itself within a few weeks. Perfectly normal.
    Some will judge your choices. Some will agree, some won't. Be strong and stand tall in what you decide. You don't have to justify or defend yourself to anyone. If you love your kid and do your best, it's all good.
    Kiwismommy19

    Answer by Kiwismommy19 at 2:24 PM on Aug. 29, 2010

  • Don't buy everything you see - you only need a tiny bit of it all!
    Mommy_0f_many

    Answer by Mommy_0f_many at 2:24 PM on Aug. 29, 2010

  • we all make mistakes, no one is perfect...do what works for YOU and your child, parenting is not a one size fits all kind of thing...kids are pretty durable, they tend to make it through most things without any permanent damage so learn to take things in stride and dont freak out when something goes differently than planned...its okay to feel clueless, we all do sometimes...when you cannot take the screaming anymore, its okay to put him in the crib and shut the door to give yourself a little bit of time to pull yourself together.
    LoriaAnn

    Answer by LoriaAnn at 2:46 PM on Aug. 29, 2010

  • You're only one person. As much as we would all like to be able to handle it all at once, we can't.

    Don't jump up the second your baby makes a noise. Sometimes babies will coo in their cradle for a while before asking to get out. Even if the baby starts to fuss wait a few minutes. It is important for baby to be content on their own and as well important for them to learn to comfort themselves. Especially if something wakes them up.

    Pay attention to your child and learn their signs. Baby will tell you when they're hungry, wet, tired, gassy, or just play restless. Once you learn their signs you'll find it much easier to get them what they need to calm them.

    Allow baby time on the floor everyday from day one. Place them under hanging toys on a playmat for a period of time everyday to help them focus, ineract, learn to grab, etc. It's important for them to learn on their own how to use their body.
    JazzlikeMraz

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 3:19 PM on Aug. 29, 2010

  • Never be afraid to ask for help and never be afraid to take help that is offered. You're mom, but you're not supermom. It's okay to take a helping hand when needed.

    Don't be afraid of spoiling baby for the first four months. Babies under the age of four months don't retain information as well as older babies, and don't remember that they were held all the day the previous day. After four months they start retaining more information and they will start to manipulate and what-not if they feel they can.

    JazzlikeMraz

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 3:24 PM on Aug. 29, 2010

  • RELAX! Don't try to get back to your "normal" routine too quickly. Take the first 2 weeks and do NOTHING but take care of yourself and your new baby. Use that time to slow down, recover, cuddle all of your children close (& Hubby), and enjoy your new family. SLOWLY return to your old routine, and be sure to take help whenever it is offered.

    I didn't take this time with my 1st, so my recovery took much longer, and I was stressed and cranky. I DID take this time with my 2nd & 3rd, and it made a huge difference. I healed faster, and life was much more relaxed and less stressful.
    sjjeaster

    Answer by sjjeaster at 3:32 PM on Aug. 29, 2010