It seems like my MIL/FILs answer to misbehavior is to spank. That's what we're told we should do when our son does something bad. I get kind of tired at having someone tell us how to raise our son. We're not opposed to spanking, but it is not the end-all, be-all answer to everything. It's a last resort for us.
I'll tell you what happened to set off this latest debate. Sunday, our son got into the fridge and attempted to pour himself some juice and he ended up pouring the entire container out on the floor. Yesterday he got a carton of eggs and broke them all over his floor. I was not at home, but DH was. Now don't be getting self-righteous on me and saying "you need to keep an eye on your son at all times." He's 3 1/2, we have a house with an open floor plan, and we don't restrict him to one part of the house. It's his home, not his jail cell. DH is fairly lenient, doesn't say much to him (more continued in reply)...
Answer by frogdawg at 11:26 AM on Aug. 31, 2010
Answer by coala at 11:19 AM on Aug. 31, 2010
He's growing and he is trying to be just like the grown ups. In order to reduce, and let's face it - no way to eliminate every frustrating situation, we have made things easier for our child. Plates, utensils, and even some food that he can reach is easy to get and eat. Also drinks that are available to him. Water from the bathroom tap with a stool and a cup always at the ready. This has helped. We lay out complete outfits and he chooses which one - placed in his closet in the storage rack where he can reach. Anything he can do we encourage. If an uh-oh happens - we teach him what grown ups do. We supply him with what he needs to clean it up. Wet the bed? No problem. He helps to strip his bed and change into new pajamas. Miss the toilet? Okay, here is a spray bottle, paper towels, and remember to wash the hands. One thing I remember is not all things need to be a crime. So your child won't eat. Poor guy, I'll bet
Answer by frogdawg at 11:16 AM on Aug. 31, 2010
eats at his next meal. I tell him that I'll make sure to cook a big breakfast if he eats nothing at dinner. Hungry right before bed - so sorry, breakfast will be served at seven. It is all about the learning. No need for spanking. No need for yelling. Just good old fashion common sense. And duh, on the common sense part. My MIL wonders why my son won't eat and gets angry with him. Well, when you leave cookies around what do you think will happen. So no, I am not going to punish my three year old when the adult should have been smarter. No to her leaving out knives or other dangerous things. Put them up. And if she can't - well my husband has told her she can visit us at any time but we bring our son to long visits at homes who are willing to do some common sense toddler proofing. We are not asking her to rearrange her furniture, only make sure medications and safety issues are taken care of. As far as how we
Answer by frogdawg at 11:21 AM on Aug. 31, 2010
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 11:16 AM on Aug. 31, 2010
Answer by mamahobbit at 1:30 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
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