Somethings got to change. I am constantly cleaning up after my slob husband. I have spoke to him many times, he apologizes and does it again and again. We both work. The three kids and 2 dogs make enogh messes as it is! He never folds his laundry, just throws it on the floor, dirty laundry gets left 2 feet from the damn hamper, or he puts it on top of the lid instead of simply lifting the lid. Doesn't clean the high chair or the table when he feeds the kids, doesn't rinse off dishes, leaves loose change everywhere(choking hazard) crumpled reciepts everywhere, leaves mail all over the house, towels on the floor etc. When he does "tidy up" it's only the living room and the dishes, and it's when he knows I'm pissed. Empty sippy cups everywhere, and he'll leave dirty diapers on the changing table!!I can't live like this anymore and nothing I do seems to get through to him! All i do is clean!!Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:33 PM on Aug. 31, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 2:37 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
Answer by Angellinda at 2:39 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
Answer by geminilove at 2:40 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
My sister suggested something to me when I had a similar problem .. She said "Stop doing things for him. Don't do his laundry, don't cook his meals, don't hand him his mail, don't get things for him, just stop doing everything for him. He clearly is depending on you to do everything and knows that he doesn't have to because you will. So stop doing it for him." I think it's good advice. He clearly is dependent on you to do everything for him and he knows that eventually you will. As long as you're not harming yourself or the kids (by leaving things around that could harm them). Do everything for you and the kids and don't ask him to help at all. He'll eventually feel lonely, left out, and realize that you don't need him. Hopefully that will get him into gear and wake him up.
Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 2:41 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
Answer by Alisim at 2:42 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
Answer by Musicmom80 at 2:42 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
Damn, sounds like my dh. If you find the cure, please let me know.
I've done everything I can think of, gone on cleaning strike, I never last, stopped doing his laundry and now he lives out of the basket, moved out of the bedroom, sex strike which was more painful for me, talked until his ears were blue, bitched, moaned, groaned and even left him with the kids to deal with at the worst times, teething.I've tried be calm and rational and well he's stubborn and he thinks it's my job to clean and take care of the kids. But I cannot get it though his head that he's making more work for me and he needs to NOT contribute to the mess. But he just doesn't get it.
Answer by isabellalecour at 3:06 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
Answer by Musicmom80 at 3:16 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
Answer by figaro8895 at 3:37 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
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