My father inlaw is in a nursing home. We have been paying his bills for years due to his alcoholism and his mind is gone. He has brain damage because he fell down the stairs drunk. He has proven many times he is not safe alone. He has one arm and no legs from an accident 35 years ago so he is pretty limited. He has fallen many times. And gets DT's if he is sober. He was in the nursing home recently because he had an infection for a year and refused to go to a doctor and it almost killed him. The nursing home said he could never go home because he is too far gone. So guess what! This week they are sending him home! He lives alone. He has no drivers license and drives drunk!! He will kill himself and possibly others. County does nothing either! They said they will have someone "check in" from time to time. I think that's crap.I'm really upset, and I have no control over this. How do my family and I get through this?
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 7:35 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
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Answer by pixie_trix at 7:40 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
I would call both your State Health Board and report that wacko nursing home and then I would call your State's Attorney General. This is a direct violation of elder-abuse laws. They could have a really nasty lawsuit on their hands if they don't take him back. I know it would be difficult to have him live with you and your husband until these nitwits get some brain cells.
Answer by Joeygoat at 7:38 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
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Answer by michelle121003 at 9:20 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
You are going to have to go to court and try to get power of attorney. If you, or someone in the family, can get it then you will be able to decide where he goes and how long he stays there. If he is able to choose to leave, there is nothing the nursing home can do. They have to let him go. We had this problem with my mom; until my dad got POA of her. You may have to let him go and document how he lives. If you can prove to a judge that he is a danger to himself and to others, then you should be able to get POA of him rather easily. If you don't do something he will kill himself or someone else and you know this. Also, is he has no legs or arms, he should be able to get Medicare and Medicaid, if he can prove that he can not work. If he gets both, it will pay for his nursing care and you should not have to pay out of pocket. Good luck.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 9:24 PM on Aug. 31, 2010
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