I'm starting to confuse myself greatly. My DH and I have been married for 11 yrs and our sexual relations has gone down hill big time. I do believe mainly it is my fault I had a baby 2 yrs ago and it's only gotten worse since.
I never initiate sex, and in the several months my husband doesn't much either because I may turn him down or we just don't get a chnace.
Don't get me wrong when we have sex it is absolutely awesome and I think to myself I really need to do this more.
Now,what I don't get is within the last month I have been looking at some free porn sites after everyone goes to bed, and I masturbate. If I can do this so freely why can't I just go to him.?
In the back of my head I am thinking I just do it as a stress reliever and there is no pressure about it.
I love him, I love the sex we have- when we have it. Maybe just doing this will help me get motivated more towards him.....
Answer by zakityzak at 1:07 AM on Sep. 1, 2010
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Answer by Fistandantalus at 7:36 AM on Sep. 1, 2010
There is nothing wrong in masturbation. Having kids makes things difficult in the bedroom. It's perfectly acceptable to take responsibility for your own orgasm. At least your not suffering from lack of sex and the frustration that it brings. I wouldn't be too worried about this. When you find a good time to approach your dh, I'm sure you will. But in the meantime, talk to him, let him know that your still receptive and enjoy sex with him. Work on your own issues with approachinghim sexually. If timing is the real issue, work on making the time with him, even if it's nothing more than a date night. Intimacy is far more important to a marriage than sex.
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