My husband, our three kids, and I live with his parents while he's in school. Also living with his parents are his mom's parents (his grandmother has alzheimers). That's nine people so you can imagine there isn't a lot of room. Also there's quite a bit of yelling and crying from dh's grandmother. I hate being here and personally don't think that it's a good environment for the children. I have suggested everything I can think of to dh on how we can move out but he turns me down every time. Sometimes I don't even thinks he's even listening. My mom (who lives alone) offered to let us stay with her but dh said she's too flaky. He also said that if we move then he doesn't see how he could continue going to school. I was shocked at how many of my friend said I should move out with out him. I love him but I'm just torn between what he thinks is right and what I do.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:33 AM on Oct. 12, 2008 in Relationships
Answer by myboogiewoogie at 7:05 AM on Oct. 12, 2008
It sounds to me like he has separation issues. Maybe he doesn't feel emotionally prepared to leave his parents' house. Maybe he feels obligated to help his mother out with his ailing grandfather. Whatever the issue may be, he needs to learn to "grow up". I suggest coming up with a compromise. Instead of moving farther away from his school by moving in with your mother, why don't you guys get a place of your own? There are MANY families who have a parent that works while another goes to school. There are also MANY families that have a parent that works and goes to school. You could get a job to help out with expenses and you could apply for government assistance. The government will assist with daycare expenses, food expenses and even housing.
Answer by AvasMommy810 at 7:12 AM on Oct. 12, 2008
It is tough living away from parents but it is extremely possible (even for a family of five) if you commit to it. If YOU don't feel safe living with his parents and he doesn't feel comfortable moving so far away from his school/parents the you MUST compromise. Otherwise, you will all be miserable.
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