Can you pinpoint why he is afraid of the toilet? Knowing what triggers the fear can help you work around that problem. Another idea is to get one of those little potties that you set on the bathroom floor. It doesn't flush, it's not up high, and there's no water in it (unless you fill it up for some reason), so that may help.
I suggest talking to him about potty training, why we do it, etc. Then go on a trip to the store. Talk about big boy undies and let him pick out some special ones he can wear once he's ready. You can also let him choose a training potty or one of those potty seats that fits over your toilet. Heck, you might even give him the money at the register and let him be the one to "buy" it! That way he will have ownership of the process and not feel so much like it's something you're forcing him into. Plus, what kid doesn't like to use something they got to pick out at the store!
at 6:51 PM on Jun. 30, 2008