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i dont want to move to colorado!!!!!!

hi im savanna, im a 24 year old mother of 2 great kids- bailey 5 years and maddie 3 years. i am a stay at home mom and love every minute of it although some times i wanna pull all of my hair out and just scream lol. neway starting last year things got really bad w/ my husband and i , we fought everyday, things got violent, and even worse than that but neway, after about almost a year of abuse i left, and he promised to never lay a hand on my again and what not, needless to say he hasnt held up his side of things. things were good for about a month or so and then things stated goin back to how they were before i left. and now his mother has come into some money and now they have decided to move to colorado and ive said that i dont wanna go but he doesnt care he wants to go cuz its colder there and other reasons. but neway for 1 i dont wanna leave my family and we've started fighting everyday again. what do i do? i do love him?

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mamasmurf171

Asked by mamasmurf171 at 5:28 PM on Sep. 2, 2010 in Relationships

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  • he beats you and you want to stay? What happens when he gets tired of just hitting you and starts on the kids?

    You want them to live like that?
    Jademom07

    Answer by Jademom07 at 5:29 PM on Sep. 2, 2010

  • He is still hitting you? If so, DO NOT GO! You need to stay where you have a support system, your family. Let him go, don't worry he can't take your kids out of state, you are fine, just get away from him.
    shanlaree

    Answer by shanlaree at 5:30 PM on Sep. 2, 2010

  • Also to add, the kids are seeing their mommy getting beat, do you really want them to grow up thinking that is ok? You are setting them up for a really screwed up life if you can't show them NOW that you are strong enough to leave your abuser and that it is NOT ok for someone to lay their hands on you!
    shanlaree

    Answer by shanlaree at 5:32 PM on Sep. 2, 2010

  • Wow. Don't move with him, get a job, stay by your family, and keep your kids the hell away from him. Once an abuser, always an abuser.
    Annabel1809Lee

    Answer by Annabel1809Lee at 5:35 PM on Sep. 2, 2010

  • Do not go, you are enabling him to act abusive. Stand up to him and say your not going!! You can get help. Dont go, dont let your kids see you getting abused and not do anything about it.
    browningmom

    Answer by browningmom at 5:35 PM on Sep. 2, 2010

  • If he is hitting you let him leave!!!
    anfisasmommy

    Answer by anfisasmommy at 5:38 PM on Sep. 2, 2010

  • I would be throwing him a Going Away Party! Be Thankful he doesn't care what you think about moving; many women can not get away from their Abusers No Matter how hard they try- Look at this as your second chance for you & your kids- Things will get SO Much worse if you move away with him- i promise! You & your kids deserve So Much More than this- Good Luck!
    daisyb

    Answer by daisyb at 6:57 PM on Sep. 2, 2010

  • i would let him leave. he won't stop abusing you. i've seen it a ton of times with my mom. her boyfriends would abuse her than she'd leave so they would stop for a little while then start doing it again. one of them made her move away from all her family just so he could abuse her without anyone saying anything.
    xavierlogan09

    Answer by xavierlogan09 at 7:13 PM on Sep. 2, 2010

  • are you a gluten for punishment? don't move. call it quites now. he won't change without serious help and he should do it on his own. you already don't want to go your feel it in your heart you don't want to go. what else do you need to know that the answer is no you shouldn't go. um hello.
    melody77

    Answer by melody77 at 7:37 PM on Sep. 2, 2010

  • I hate to say this, but he will continue to hit you - love has nothing to do with it. If not for yourself, think of your children. DON'T GO!!!
    ladycertz

    Answer by ladycertz at 8:07 PM on Sep. 2, 2010

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