My MIL has always been controlling. I got pregnant before we were married (although we were engaged). She basically called me a cheating whore and demanded a paternity test, even though our son was planned. When we wouldn't do what she wanted, her and FIL refused to have anything to do with our wedding. They weren't there. Hubby's grandparents paid for what his parents should have. So, fast forward through all kinds of other BS. Just within the last two years we've started talking again. MIL took a trip to visit her parents a couple months ago, told us not to think about coming because we weren't invited. We have a special trip planned for tomorrow (his gpas birthday is in two weeks), and I just found out from my hubby that she's invited herself to come along, and is now planning out the entire day. This is just the latest in a string of incidents we've had. I've had enough... how do I approach it without causing WWIII?Answer Question
Answer by gottalovemal at 8:41 AM on Sep. 3, 2010
Answer by karamille at 8:41 AM on Sep. 3, 2010
Answer by Zoeyis at 8:43 AM on Sep. 3, 2010
First you are upset because she doesn't want to be involve and now you are upset because she does. It sounds like this is a family event. She hasn't "invited herself along" on a romantic get away. Be nice and try and enjoy yourself.
Some people are old fashioned and think it might be nice to be married before you have planned pregnancies. If they are religious being pregnant before marriage may be a huge issue. I can understand why parents would be upset that my child planned and got pregnant before a planned wedding. I would think that they could wait. If a woman would get pregnant before marriage she may have other lapses in values. That may be the thinking of your MIL and why she wanted her son to make sure the baby is his.
Answer by Gailll at 8:46 AM on Sep. 3, 2010
she's invited herself to come along, and is now planning out the entire day
She can't do this unless someone allows it. It's really quite simple to say no. Since it sounds like you're sure not the one allowing it, that means your husband is - which means your problem isn't with her. It's with him.
Answer by caseyandkids at 8:50 AM on Sep. 3, 2010
Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 9:25 AM on Sep. 3, 2010
Answer by mekarevell at 9:38 AM on Sep. 3, 2010