Anyone have to deal with getting your ex sign over their rights?

Not hard to do, but involves a lawyer.

well in oregon there has to be no attemted contact for 2 full years and then you get a lawyer and it costs around 6000$

i think if he never took care of the child or tried to have any type of relationship with the child he doesn't have rights. i would contact a family law lawyer.... good luck!!!

Has you been married for one year? Has you ex had any contact with your child for one year? Do you know where they live (city/state)? Most will have you post an add in the local newspaper (where he lives) saying that your child is being adopted. You have to wait for a short span of time for him to respond to it. If he doesn't respond then they will let your husband adopt the child. If he does you have to go through mediation or court to get him to sign over his rights. Either way you have to, in some way, let him know. Most states will call it child abandonment if he's not had any form (talk, card, or letter) with the child and take him rights away with little to know issue.

 Talk to a lawyer about it. All states have different laws for adoption.

I am not so sure about statutes on this....if someone is unable to locate their child for years, it's still ilegal. If that was the case we could just take the kid into hiding until enough time went by. My mom was going to do this with her husband when I was 12. My dad had not been around for 12 years. Her lawyer told her she still had to get his permission. She couldn't find him and she felt if she contacted him he would try to control the situation in a very unhealthy matter due to the fact he was an alcoholic and was abusive. I think you need to get leagal advice from a family law attorney.

It doesn't matter. No one said you were doing anything illegal. I was simply explaining a hypothetical point of why the law is the way it is. My SIL tried doing this too. I know it's what you want, but I'm just telling you our experiences, you asked. My SIL is in vegas and attempted to do so. Didn't work out so well. Unless he is agreeing to do so(which is possible), you could have a nasty spat on your hands. Sometimes it better to leave things the way they are instead of making a huge mess if it doesn't go according to plan. It's a peice of paper. I have two dads. Good luck!
Also, you would have to be able to prove with reasonable doubt in front of a judge that he could contact you.